Of Faces and Places In the Heart

My favorite past time of all is people watching. I have always been intrigued by people and their facial reactions, how they walk and talk and carry themselves.  I simply enjoy watching people.

Everyone, I mean everyone, has attributes that are lovely.  I find them. Sometimes, it’s their beautiful hair, their smile, it may be their whole package; how they are wrapped before us, the world, as they pass by us in a single millisecond of time.

There are times and places that we find along our travels where things rest peacefully in our hearts, simply waiting for that someday when they’ll jump right out of our chests and into the world for all to see. To be then on the witnessing end firsthand is to be graced by something I think very special.

Here then standing at an arrival gate in an international airport, I find such special things. Here, people watchers such as myself, rejoice. So much to see, there are so many lives walking by intersecting, touching, not physically; perhaps metaphysically. There are so many differences that they become the same or similar and at least commonalities.

Here, right here in this airport are many hearts slowly leaking, seeping, jumping and leaping out of their chests! We are unlike faces, we are unlike languages but we are alike in smiles and heartfelt touches of humanity.

Hearts that are seen leaping happen in the recognition of one’s family, distant relatives, and long -time friends. Each person filing off flights with hugs awaiting them burst as happiness fills their faces. It is uncanny how suddenly all of those unlike faces become more alike than ever and how this is so immediate. Eyes finding eyes and smiles finding smiles, filling full the faces of the tired and weary, the young and tiny, the ensconced elder in the wheelchair, the saddened, even if just briefly, smiling with their hearts leaping!

Some will receive balloons, flowers, and hugs. There are the lovelorn whose hugs are tight and lips are locked, with tears of joy leaping with their hearts. Those full-kisses have the power of missed weeks, months or even years to be immediately wiped away with new lives started or restarted and love rekindled or just started.

Let it be known, that in this place I stand, all those attributes we all have that I have witnessed firsthand, that they meld into each other and that the lovely I found before still exists only now as my own daughter comes out the arrival door and we see each other’s eyes, I can only hope that someone just witnessed a millisecond of my life as my heart leaps from my chest!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a ConversationalTone!

Road Trippin…..

Road Trippin

 

There’s the rumble of the tires on the asphalt road, the wind blowing across the car with deafening sound and sweaty hair stuck to faces, as kids in the back seat ask, “When are we going to get there?”

There’s a stop for gas and a Polaroid camera, the station with a general store attached to it has salt water taffy and I am happy; all the flavors are my favorites! The man came out and began to fill my dad’s car up with gas and he washed the bugs off the windshield too! He and my dad chatted as the man pointed here and there as they were both looking at the atlas.

My mom sprayed her hair with hairspray and went back to reading her romance paperback. I don’t know why she keeps doing that we’re all choking back here! Also my mother thinks we can’t read too, it’s a book about kissing I am sure of it!

My brothers argue and wrestle, but me, I just peered out into the sky above me. I’m watching the clouds; they somehow look different out here. I suppose being out in the middle of nowhere means there just might be a little more sky!

I see there is way more room to play, but it doesn’t look like there are any kids around, just miles of corn and behind that  miles more of corn!  By the time my dad has gotten back into the car, I have already spotted an entire zoo worth of animals in those clouds, and I can even swear I see my grandmother’s face there too!

Time to go back onto the humming road now and count the thwamps and rumbles on the different pavements and undoubtedly I will fall fast asleep and miss the Native Americans on the plains that I think I might see.  I will also miss the license plate game my mom will play or 50 guesses question game, but who cares I’ll have my dreams of being a prairie girl like in my story books.

I’ll dream of what could be in the next town and the town after that!  And from this day on I will always have a sense of wonder, of what that next town will bring, more flavors of taffy pulled; I hope, or maybe just maybe, how many more miles of unfound zoo animals or grandmothers faces will be in the sky above me.

Dunes Beach Party

 

Oh how I remember those fun times so fondly, where teenage hanging out reigned supreme!

Summer was always so short (i.e. having fun), so gather your friends and get it together! Parties, bonfires in the woods and of course beach party flings were filling the calendar quickly and soon I’d be a senior in high school. There wasn’t a minute to waste, no not thinking about even making future plans like college or classes to take, but I mean getting to the mall (yes even back then there was one)!  There were new bikinis to buy and lip gloss and records (yes I’m that old, also shut up!) and possible concert tickets! Oh those were the days when the minimum wage was low and stuff cost less and I was skinny enough to make a halter out of knotted together bandanas and shoes were always optional!

Within two days of the last day of school car loads of teens made mass exoduses out of their respective subdivisions and out into the wanderlust of their souls. The forest preserves back then were filled with excellent music blasting and super championships of Frisbee, and if one wanted to, there was a guy in a van that would give you an excellent tattoo! How innocent were those that actually did that kind of stuff (no, I didn’t) but actually one never heard of blood borne diseases just yet. Nor did anyone actually die of such an adventure, that we were aware.

So the Frisbees flew and the days were long and the music was as hot as the pavement and it was all good. Especially if one could pack in at least six friends at one time into your car or jeep or special guy’s muscle car and cruise anywhere!  There were nice beaches along Chicago’s lakefront, but the older one got the further from home we wanted to go.

So, the Dunes of Indiana or Michigan called our names. Plans were made, cars were loaded with Styrofoam coolers of Pepsi and bags of Lays chips and with Coppertone oil and chewing gum, sunglasses, cigarettes, transistor radio and towels were filled. As our parents waved a quick goodbye, a virtual parade of cars gather at the station to fill the tanks with gas and on the road we went!  Our heads and arms hanging out open windows, bare feet on dashboards and smiles from ear to ear. The parade proceeded following the one and only guy who knew how to get there! (No google maps people…just handwritten directions or yes an atlas/map was used). The car I was in had one because my dad threw it at me before I left; dad telling me to “give it to the guy driving” because you will get lost!

We arrive! Fabulous expanse of beach lay before us, the weather was hot, we scoped our spots and laid down our blankets as far from people as we could. We nicknamed our spot Camp Beach!  We had the best time, all of use sunburnt tan lines and happiness tired; the girls decide to go to find the beach house to use the washroom. When we came out with freshly rinsed feet (shower was free) we headed back to our blanket camp. Dunes contain ups and downs and they sometimes go for miles and miles but your feet were baby smooth (no pedicures needed the sand provided them) we four were nearly back when we realized we were being followed by four guys we did not know! When we approached our blankets, the followers tried to talk to us and we expressed that we were taken by these guys here, they said oh ok. But they proceeded to park themselves right next to us! Well yes, you guessed it a horrible fight ensued and punches in our honor were thrown. A melee of sand was tossed and naturally a park ranger happened by, all was ended and everyone went their separate ways. We had enough of sun and fun and packed up Camp Beach. As we did this the boys were getting in their respective cars to drive and asked me for their wallets (the boys put their wallets into my beach bag for safe keeping so they didn’t lose them or get them wet)!! But when I reached into the bag, they were all gone! Every single wallet was stolen by those creepy guys! It was the worst ending a beautiful day could have. Not one of us ever recovered any of our wallet contents and lessons were learned that day!

We all could not wait to get home, and now with sunburn all I wanted was my mommy! So much for growing up!

Reconnect

I ran into someone,  or I nearly fell over someone, ok….I didn’t even recognize her; she did me! How awful I felt for the better part of the whole week after that! I used to be really good close friends with this person and the very fact that it took her to actually say her name, did I then (and only then) realize who she was.

I’m in no way forgetful and memories of great times, parties and events immediately flooded me as I stood there. As far back as Girl Scouts and elementary school functions, not to mention high school, we did a lot together~ then quickly after graduation we drifted, more precisely,  we never saw each other again!

Now as I stand before her with a manufactured smile and sweaty palms, I listen to her recall some of those fun times and I then see her face light up~ “Oh Wow, we had a blast back then”!  Now I’m actually engaged and truly smiling~  Thank you friend from days gone by, you’ve “rebooted” me! You threw me back to fond memories and while you said I haven’t changed at all; perhaps it really was me I didn’t recognize~

Keep in touch.

Just my thoughts, just my opinion, and always in a Conversationaltone!

 

 

 

Cancer….You Suck

….You rear your ugly head……like a monster you destroy everything in your path…….

Cancer you suck!!

 

I delve into the age old question, why?  I’m sure that each one of you has known someone or has been personally touched by cancer in some way. It hurts. And again, it has touched me up close and personal; with one of my family members currently going through it. As I sit here in the cancer center looking around thinking of each person I say a small good vibes prayer.

I see that each of them is at different stages of life as well as different stages of cancer. It hurts. I see the people who are expressionless sitting next to their loved one and friend accompanying them for support and love. I see the end of the line and now I can recognize the beginning so easily.

I also see spirit, and in the eyes of so so many I see hope~ I wish I had some type of superpower because this would be it; the ability to eradicate cancer, all of them in one quick scoop! The sheer suffering and pain of each of them fills the air, one can feel it. The beeps of the machines when the I.V. drip is done, keeps my mind from drifting too far, as I imagine that each one sitting here in this center, is floating on a crystal blue surf at a tropical white sandy beach, where each of them is being served the tastiest foods and drinks all while feeling never a pain. Is this too much to ask?

Cancer is a surreal thing just as dreams are. The treatments follow a protocol, that’s simple enough but people are as different as their disease is too. You’re a creepy monster cancer and I dislike you so much. I see now why you are so hard to cure. If it has to be, then why can’t you just be quick? Spare them, spare us~

Take care each of us, live today and laugh, be happy. Share if you can goodwill to another, for tomorrow is not guaranteed~

Pray for Brussels

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No words just moments of silence  please

Very Drew Peterson Update

As many of you have followed my site for a long time, you may have seen my true disdain for Mr. Drew Peterson. I have a small update I’d like to report.

It goes as follows:

The Third District Appellate Court has upheld the guilty verdict and 38 year prison sentence placed on Drew Peterson. He was found guilty of drowning his estranged wife, 40 year old Kathleen Savio in March of 2004.

Also Peterson still faces charges of solicitation of murder for hire and solicitation of murder.

The complaint is that, Peterson, behind bars, secured an unnamed person to find another person to kill Will County State’s Attorney James Glascow.

To the circus clown that thought he was the teflon don~ how are you liking the view?

Just my thoughts, Just my opinions and always in a ConversationalTone.

A Little Bit of Something

So much to bitch about and there’s so little time!

The holiday’s are coming, so I’m sure my ire will be elevated, and I’ll be willing to bet that yours will be too!  After all, it’s time to hit the stores to buy food,(and booze) and presents and more food and way more (booze) (notice how I’m trying to whisper in parenthesis?) Anyway, a certain amount of the bah hum bugs happens because there are people out and about that barely ever come out of their houses to do much of anything, let alone to shop for kids presents or food for a family gathering. That means the couch potato has left its nest, and that could be an ugly thing.

So once you step over the door threshold and step into a midnight sale or a holiday deep discount two for one thingy, remember shopping basket road rage is a definite thing! And if you can get a jolly at all~  remember there’s actually  people out with their morning jammies and slippers on! This is great for a laugh or ten, or perhaps an istagram post or two. Have fun shopping and hanging out, but mostly remember the looks on their faces knowing you tirelessly shopped, picked out and tailored a gift for them!!

Haha to be continued….

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a Conversationaltone.

Waterfalls

Waterfalls

The forest calls me by name and asks me to hike within it. As I travel slowly breathing deeply

of its rustic scents, I am energized. I’d love to walk here forever. I continue into the still heavily

leafed area, where I feel enveloped with hugs from the trees above me. I guess if you can see me

right now, you’d see a happy smile and lifted heart and a joyful spirit. For it is here, around this

crag and near the natural small waterfall that is fed off the river a long way away, that I chose to

sit.

I am not known to meditate, in fact, some will ask me, and do you ever sit down? Yep, here.

I could do this every day, but life has a way of getting in the middle of my happy place and me.

So, when I can, I’ll go here, even if it’s just in my mind. Now I rest; I sit on this old

withered timber that has fallen due to age and forest disease, because it was needed to house the

squirrel or the beaver or even provide winter housing for the small fox family, each of these

I have seen in my little forest.  I’ll close my eyes and I will breathe listening to the little waterfall

before me. I can hear the rustle of the winds and you as you call me and my brothers’ home to eat.

I can hear you call my name as I did not do my chores. I recall the way you answered the phone.

I know that my mortality is now being challenged. I am nearing past mid-life and I ask you

that when that day comes that you’ll be standing and waiting, calling me home to dinner; not

because I’ve missed you~ But there’s so much I want to tell you about!

Shoes of Dreams

The door tumbler turned, a key inserted into the lock,

where can she hide? As her legs shook instantly and her knees

began to knock uncontrollably, the door began to move now.

She leaned against the wall of bookcases in hopes to disappear into

them, she spotted it, the closet!

Inside the master closet she suddenly felt safe. Being amongst its size and finery

from around the world, the little girl of ten was delighted!

There were shoes of all kinds and colors. There in the corner, an overly worn pair of ballet shoes

hung by a wisp of ribbon. She assumed the ballerina was once a very gorgeous woman, twirling

and dancing and dreaming. There were delicate and dainty dress shoes, perhaps Cinderella danced in

those.

But there were also shoes of a hard working woman. They were scuffed black and terribly worn

and some had crooked heels. All in a neat little row, seven pairs in all. She was sure these had all

walked at least a hundred miles or so!

And so unlike the fancy and delicate shoes of dreams, these are the only one’s she’s ever

seen on her grandmother’s feet!

Identity

My thoughts on identity.

Identity, it’s a source of self. Identity defined is simply being who or what a person or a thing is.

But wait, it is also a close similarity or affinity to something. So much lately has been in the news about

one’s self and our human attachment to an identity. I’m guessing people have been thinking way

outside the box!

Sense of self is important to us; it is where we find our personal security. It is for our sense of comfort.

Lately though, the extreme examples of finding one’s identity have been exhibited for all to see. Human

beings are creatures that crave identities because I think that people gravitate toward each other in

seeking out themselves. This is why we have clubs, support groups, and otherwise genres of t.v.

programming.

For example, taking reality t.v. into account and the types of people who watch them are perhaps

as “on the edge” as those on the shows and somehow the viewer is striving to see themselves.  The

subject matter of changing genders or assigning a gender to ourselves is an interesting one. While there

are people out there somewhere whom are choosing to be this or that, there still are as many more

born to be someone or something else. These people time and again, say they knew for themselves

they were not the appropriate gender, or knew that somehow they were not comfortable in the role

they had been living Or that they sought out love from an undisclosed gender for

example.  Or still yet, that they find themselves somehow being a “misfit” of sorts.

Identity is also something that fits you like a personal glove:  be it your job, or your life course

and sometimes, as we very recently have witnessed the racial identity of a person. One can identify with

the life that one is living. With job loss there is an identity loss, perhaps due to circumstances we squash

all that we want to be for what we have to be. Now, these subject matters bring me to understanding

and the compassion part of it to this essay. I just say let live because although I may not like a

particular thing that is happening  to someone else, I cannot control it nor can I possibly imagine what

that person is feeling  or the freedom they get once expressing themselves~ I just can’t “identify” with

it!!

Identity is where we call ourselves comfortably home and the loss of it, or the real discovery of it may be

exactly what one needs to think way out of the box on this one~

 

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a Conversationaltone!

Merry-Go-Round Memories

Merry-Go-Round Memories

 

Memories; lifetimes should be filled with them. Memories should make us giggle with delight

like when recalling your 12 year old self at the carnival. Do you rememeber the pure

enchantment you felt as you now spot the carnival in the distance? You see the lights and your

heart leapt!

Giddiness begins to happen, as you approach closer still, and now the music is softly sounds,

there are thrill screams from rickety roller coasters, and throngs of people sounds closer, closer

still and then there’s whistle of the man directing you to a pay booth with policeman’s flashlight

that causes us to jump and giggle again, as your parents follow the car packed with as many

children as will fit in it, in front of you while my two brothers and I sit quietly and smile feeling

extremely lucky to have arrived at this wonderland. My mom and dad share passing smiles

together that they were happy of their surprise vacation choice. We enter and the world warps

into a fantasy. The smells of a carnival are fabulous, the lights off the noisy rides and then there

are elephant ears dusted with white sugar, cotton candy a mile high, and corn dogs on a stick.

There were ropes of licorice in red and black….oh I want one of everything I see! There, I want

to ride the merry-go-round, I want to jump on a unicorn horse; but no I take the brown one with

the tongue sticking out weirdly. My brother is two ahead of me smiling with glee he is on a black

stallion, my younger brother is beside me and he is on a tiny white pony with blue eyes and he is

afraid.

My parents station themselves standing between us children, my dad a hand on my brother and

my mom between myself and my little brother, her hand on each horse. We begin, the music is

bellowing, the operator gives us a few rules, now spinning quite quickly, my sweaty hair is

in the breeze. My brother ahead of me thinks we are racing; he is slapping the red strap like

a rein and is smiling and laughing gratuitously. I glance at my baby brother next to me and my

mom is now holding him entirely as the pony pumps up and down. I look above me and I now

realize that my horse is just a stationary one. Just a horse on a pole and now I no longer am

smiling somehow I feel I’m having a less than experience. I want to get off of that goofy horse

anyway! I am dizzy, my baby brother is crying and my other brother is smiling crazily asking to

do it again when we exit the merry-go-round. Secretly, I hated it. But, do you remember how

much you wanted that damned stuff bear? It was deemed the top prize on the runway that year.

Every time I looked up some adorable little girl was sweetly hugging one, except I knew I was

not ever going to be one of them. (father thought games were a waste of money)

 

That night continued, and our little family trudged forward into Never NeverLand, finding a fun

house with fabulous goofy mirrors and hard to walk up floors (they were tilted), but I got scared

because of the freaky clown standing next to the funhouse; he looked directly at me and asked,

“did you have fun little girl?” ugh really? Dad bought us cotton candy and I forgot that freak for

second. We rode all the tiny rides because of my little brother and my parents

hated rollercoasters; that made me happy though. I love a little train and I rode a car that looked

like a ladybug! Back then no one cared if you were 12, they saw you were having fun, they left it

alone. Well, it was getting late and we were getting ready to go home, we were getting crabbie.

By the time we got to the car, my little brother was already asleep on my dad’s shoulder. Both

my other brother and myself were asleep before we left that parking lot.

That night our merry-go-round dreams turned into magical memories, stuffed bear or no; I thank

you mom and dad.

Just Dreaming…..

Just Dreaming……..
I was asked by a child of five the other day, “What is a dream?” And “Do dreams come true?”

So as I answered the questions in the terms I thought he’d understand; then it spurred my
thinking……
Dreams, when did I stop dreaming them? Am I just not remembering them or do I just never
have them? Great questions I posed to myself and now to you.

I love this…”Don’t you find it odd, he continued “that when you’re a kid, everyone all the world,
encourages you to follow your dreams. But when you’re older, somehow they act offended if
you even try.” Ethan Hawke~

Dreams in the most technical way are a simple series of thoughts, images and sensations
occurring in a person’s mind during sleep. No, that’s not exactly what I told the toddler, nor did I
tell them that sometimes those dreams are not all cotton candy and fairy tales. Sometimes dreams
can be dark and awful. But I felt confident that the toddler had a full toddler’s grasp on what a
dream was when I was done talking to him. Getting back to technicalities and research, it is
thought that everyone dreams between 3 to 6 times each night and the dreams can last anywhere
from 5 to 20 minutes. And then here’s the most interesting part, 95% of those dreams you just
had last night are gone and forgotten the minute one gets up!
So I guess that’s where my dreams go, back recessed into my main frame’s hard drive to be
stored in some weird way like a brain CD filled with my dreams, or pop up one day like “this
happened before” kind of thing! Deja’vu. Then there’s the scary movie that I’ll watch and I’m
afraid of dreaming now, So shutting my eyes voluntarily is simply out of the question! You

know those nights where your eyes are heavy and you really are tired, but you better not shut
your eyes…..
just in case. You’ll stand guard, wiping your eyes many times because you think you just saw the
door move, and then it’s time to turn on the nightstand light! Maybe if I read a book or think
funny thoughts that little Chucky guy in the corner will go away!

“Deep into the darkness peering, long I stood there, wondering, fearing, doubting, dreaming
dreams no mortal ever dared to dream before”
~Edgar Allen Poe

So I’ll just go back to what Ethan Hawke said, and I’ll just follow my daydreams…
and when I win that lottery you guys will all be the first to know~

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, but always in a ConversationalTone.~

Respect~

Well, I’m surprised it took me this long, I have finally caved~ This post is about respect. You know that thing your parents try to teach you…or should be teaching you, when you’re just a toddler?

By its very definition, respect as a noun simply means: a feeling of something elicited for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities or achievements.  Guess what respect means as a verb? The exact same as above!

So whether you are showing it or you are giving it, it is the same. Respect never changes. So where is all that respect when a looting riot breaks out? I am not sure. Look into the eyes of that small business owner and you ask him or her, as they cry really hard at the fact that this person has now lost everything they have strived for all their lives. Ask first what this disrespect for others can do for you? It tears at the core of the community; less is not more in this instance.

No one has ever asked anyone to not dislike or to not express a view when they feel a wrong has been pursued/committed against another, after all, take this essay blog of mine, I’m expressing a view.

The thing is this: reverence for life or property should be innate, it should be in you. We are not born as babies to hate, we are however, born into or grow up into a “place” of discontentment.

There are so many ways to change a situation. There are so many ways to add to a situation. If you choose to try to change the situation using a street protest, I’m in your corner. But when one or more or groups and throngs of people go on a tear and begin to set fires, jump on cop cars, steal, loot and/or destroy, attack cops, or spew pure hatred I cannot stand beside you.

You see I have personal honor and respect for myself as well as I have it for you. I cannot think that setting fire to a neighbor’s dry cleaning service or even ripping off a corporate business chain like a CVS will do any good for anyone at all.

I have simple respect. Those things in that store do not belong to me; therefore, if I cannot pay for them I cannot have them. The lady who’s business burned to the ground does not know now how she will feed her children; that’s right that small act of violence against respect has severe consequences. There are so many involved, in fact a whole city worth in these cases!

Now enter people. No one is above the law. No one should “get away” with disrespect of another badge or no. Please do remember positions of authority are there because someone has taken an oath to honor you, serve you and protect you. Have you the will to do this every day as a part of your job? Tough I am certain. Most of us could not nor would not want to handle the horrific things of today. I am sure that personal quality and esteem are number one in jobs such a policeman for one. They do endure rigorous testing on so many levels; they do have internal affairs policing them every time a weapon is discharged. I think their job is tough. I also think that growing up in today’s society is hard too.

But then I remember the kids in a city near me that took a small open lot that was filled with garbage, debris from drug paraphernalia and left overs from nightly partying, junk tires and car parts and turned it into a small piece of heaven. These kids were taught right then and there by a community adult, that this is where THEY live and THEY needed to be proud. So they organized and together with many of their parents they began to clean it up. They made small sandboxes in the middles of the tires, hung one from a rope on a tree to fashion a swing. They planted flowers and seeds, and watched gardens grow. It became not only a thing of beauty, but it was a source of respect, a place that was their own to keep clean and to use and to flourish there.

Being a city kid may be hard, having one parent may be hard, and going to school is hard sometimes because there may be gang activity for example. but never loose respect. Don’t lose respect for yourself, or any others around you. We as adults need to reinforce respect for others, like teachers and yes even little old ladies passing by~

We all need to remember that this respect thing goes a long way and it is not ever victimless.

What our world needs now is just a little respect, reverence and honor toward one another and maybe put on a little Aretha Franklin and play that stuff loud!

Respect and flourish~

Just my thoughts, Just my opinions, but always in a ConversationalTone~

A Light at the End of the Hallway

Normally I reserve this spot for rantings and ravings….and for things that tick me and most likely you off too~ But since I’ve let this site mellow down a bit as I pursued other things, I thought I’d start back by a simple memory post; a short short story. Just a feel good vibe thing, because you do know that I’ll get back to the ranting shortly!  In the meantime, enjoy my trip down memory lane.

The Light at the End of the Hallway (A Summer Memory)

A Simple Essay of Sorts

The perfect summer day, the glorious heat fueled by the sun and along with squiggle waves that

move off the pavement to burn the bottoms of your feet. The pool swimming was all day and

sunburnt shoulders feel like they’re on fire and eyes dry as a desert hurt from scratching.

Tummy round and puffing out filled to the brim with good grilled ears of corn in charred husks

buttered and salted, fresh strawberry shortcakes made from farm day trips, hand-picked

strawberries, by us and bought by the bushel full and mom’s sweet iced tea with lemons floating.

Running barefoot at sundown, wet dewy footprints in the stark green lush freshly cut blades

where you cannot giggle enough and there aren’t enough fireflies. The nightlights made

from mason jars and pickle jars; hope they live long enough until I fall asleep. I gave them sticks

and leaves and extra air holes. Shall I name them I put six of them in there. I think for certain at

least one must be a girl firefly because her light shines the brightest. I’m getting dreamy.

The moon coming in streaming with odd blue shadows making my teddy bear seem deadly

instead of cuddly. Getting the shivery willy’s and now I’ll never sleep! It’s a hoover beneath the

blankets time with my trusty flashlight in hand. I slowly stick my hand out from underneath the

blanket to grab the nearest book by the bed. I grab it by feel only; I’m not looking out there!

The creaking floorboard tells me that one of my parents is up and walking near my bedroom, I

am sure it is my mother. I am sure she has seen the light at the end of the hallway. I cringe and

wait quietly; barely breathing. She draws slowly my door but it creaks loudly. I continue to fake

sleep. I peek with one eye jutting out from under. I see my mother’s head peek in. Quickly I

close my eyes. She says nothing until she’s about to exit my room when she says “please don’t

stay up too late” She shuts the door behind her; I heard the smile in her voice.

I know the sense of wonder and awe. Exploring a book with a flashlight in the height of summer,

sweating beneath the blanket~ this excitement I felt dawned on me that mine was also once my

mother’s too! And now I smiled.

The perfect summer was happening down at the end of the hallway~

Casey Anthony Syndrome

Well folks, I waited patiently to make a post about the trial of Casey Anthony. I waited because I didn’t want to be part of all the noise out there. The trial started to “get to me” as I am sure it did you as well, now that its done here goes….. I am surprised, I am angered and I am in shock like the rest of you!

I have sat on juries before that have gone to verdict and I think that in a murder of this stature and profile; I simply in my opinion, feel that the information was too complex!  Look at the law instructions for instance-very complex I think that even to understand just that would have taken many hours alone.

I think that while the jury did do its ultimate job-it went to verdict, it deliberated and it brought a result I think it was a pressured one. I think and I am almost certain someone of those twelve (at least one) went home full knowing that the vote they cast for not guilty was not the one they wanted to cast forth. No one will ever admit to feeling the pressure of another or even all other jurors. Not one person wants to stand up and say that they want to be the “possible one” who does not see it everyone’s way!

Even though the judge will ask-is this your true opinion? Is this the vote you wanted to cast? When at that point it has gone that far no one would ever say No I want to change my mind it’s not my vote, can we revote! It just doesn’t and I bet almost never has! It has past the point of no return!

So while I personally think this has been a horrifying miscarriage of justice, and I personally think that a mockery has been made of our system; it is our system.

So next time when you get called to jury duty-you do the damnest thing you can to get on that jury! Remember you can make a difference, maybe it won’t be now but it could be in the future. Sadly, there will be more Casey’s out there to come. Those kids that think they should bear no responsibility for their actions-the ones that are given too much and the ones that are never told no! We all know one-that’s not dysfunctional at all-it is our society! Our society is what is dysfunctional! I have heard many stories about a young girl out there partying it up, who winds up prego, who doesn’t tell family or friends, and who hides it. I also know families that do not ever “air their dirty laundry”! Why should they?

What was dysfunctional was the fact that our society accepts the irreverent actions and behavior of teens like Casey. I am hoping that somehow the parents will be able to get the help they need. Cindy will be a healthier person if she not let Casey back into her home. I hope that they both (Cindy & George) will be able to see the forest for the trees and know that this awful circumstance that is the creation of their daughter, is just that a creation by their daughter. This kind of event could strengthen them and their marriage or it could rip them apart. Such a shame!

Casey will languish eventually (when she’s done partying it up) when she finally comes to Earth perhaps she will make herself sick, as sick as she has made all of us! I think the lump in throat and the ball in my stomach must be the Casey Anthony Syndrome. Once one gets this, it may take some time to pass!

In the meantime, hugs your kids, your stepkids, your grandkids, your neighbors kids, and treat them right so they don’t grow up to be the next Casey Marie Anthony!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

 

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Abrupt Recess In Casey Anthony Trial

Update: Upon returning from the early lunch recess, the questioning of prospective jurors was to take place, however, abruptly the judge called for another recess until 8:30 A.M. tomorrow.

After speaking with the lawyers present and then the lawyers spoke with Casey Anthony and then once everyone was back in the courtroom seated, the judge then called for the recess.

No one is quite sure what is taking place at this point. Jose Baez was not present in the courtroom during this activity. There are various speculations as to why the recess is now taking place. We will see at 8:30 A.M. tomorrow. As it stands currently only 11 prospective jurors have been chosen. Judge Perry needs 12 sworn and seated along with a handful of alternates to begin the trial on Monday morning.

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a Conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Casey The Trial is Starting Monday at 9 A.M.

The parting last words of Judge  Blevin Perry, Jr. were that he has a jury of eleven and while he will continue with the prospective fresh fifty tomorrow, he would’ve liked to have had more seated at this point. He continued to say that the trial will be starting with whatever they have come Monday morning at 9 A.M.

After eight days of jury selection, it has ended with twelve actually being seated.

One prospected juror was most likely shocked as he was admonished and assessed a fine for contempt of court for violating 3.830, which was not to discuss the matter. He was on the cell phone talking to someone about trying to get out of jury duty. He was fined no jail time but a stiff fine of $450.00, the juror agreed to pay the fine in monthly installments of $50. 00 per month by the 10th of each month. If this person does not pay for the contempt of court charge he will be arrested and will serve jail time! 

This judge is setting his rule in his court room. Further news, according to the Orlando Setinel about 50 passes per day will be given out to the general public. The general public can begin lining up at 5:30 A.M. for the first come first serve tickets. They will follow strict rules once in the court room. The trial is expected to last anywhere from 6 to 8 weeks.

The family and friends of Casey Anthony will be able to sit in a section behind her but the media has the entire first rows as well as the upper balcony of the courtroom.

There are two areas that will be designated free-speech zones where protestors can assemble to protest Casey Anthony.

Well, at the time of this writing, court is on lunch recess but will return around the 1 P.M. hour for continued juror selection.

Will continue to post any new developments as this case moves forward toward Monday morning.

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a Conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Casey Anthony It is Time!

Well, we have long awaited the trial~we as a collective group will have many feelings going forward. We all will be compelled to watch, blog and conversate with deep opinion. So let’s do…but lets really listen-For Caylee-

So put on your seatbelts the long ride is about to begin where the lawyers will take us on roads well worn and traveled and then some new roads will be merely dusty trails that they will blaze! Good Luck and the posts about to begin!  Drew Peterson can’t be too far behind!

Drew Peterson Hearsay Arguments Today

Finally, after long anticipation the hearsay arguments are here. While Drew Peterson need not be present in the court room today, this case is a high-profile one and the interest spans those who have had brushes with domestic violence, or have been victim of murder and th media. It will be argued by the defense that this evidence is prejudicial and that it should not be allowed due to its unconstitutionality. But at this point in time the Illinois Appellate Court,  in an effort to be transparent, will broadcast live via the internet and tv feed.

This will be groundbreaking and historical in the State of Illinois. The Third District Appellate Court will let us see the inside of the arguments, of which is extremely rare. While this is not the criminal case being tried itself, the prosecutors are there to bring forth an effort to have at least 13 hearsay statements included  in the criminal trial of Drew Peterson.

Peterson is 57 years old and is currently being held and is charged with killing his third wife Kathleen Savio in 2004, and while he is a person of interest/suspect in his fourth wife Stacy Peterson disappearance, he has not currently been charged in any way regarding that case. Drew Peterson is in the Will County Jail in lieu of a $20 million dollar bail.

More on this story as the proceedings develop.

Just my thoughts, just my opinions and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Drew Peterson/ Casey Anthony Cases

It’s rather amazing that even though I managed to get thousands of readers by writing my opinions on the cases of  Drew Peterson and that of Casey Anthony, I chose to take a step away from both of them.  While their cases are continually in the media on some level or another; it may be a small quip mentioned in the newspaper of even a small glimpse on a  CNN newscast, they feel like they both may have happened yesterday! I think this is what truly is known as finding closure. It is that tiny little nagging thing that is in the back of your mind that helps you relive these atrocities over and over again. It is the response we have that says we have a conscious, and even deeper; a heart!  These cases have touched raw nerves and we are hard-wired to ask for answers or further to demand them. It is now a game of cat and mouse for the lawyers. They will toy with the jury that is closely listening to evidence while we will sit here and listen to the case in progress and again the cases will bring out the emotions and public opinion. So from my vantage point as I see my readers again and again click on stories that were written a full year or more ago, the relevance of these cases are still there. So the winter will pass and the spring will come and we will watch, and we will blog, and we will hope and this writer especially; desperately wants to contribute to the matter of public opinion and fairly and justly our courts will serve. We all know what the best outcomes for these cases are, or rather what we’d like them to be.

So when that springtime comes, my keyboard will be blazing with a blow-by-blow scorecard of sorts on the Casey Anthony case and the very dramatic Drew Peterson! Here’s to hope you’ll be tuning in and commenting. And this writer will hope then and only then will we as a collective group of society with conscious and heart gain a small piece of closure. I know that once both of these cases are actually made official and sentencing done, I’ll be free to find other cases that will reach my heart and hopefully yours too!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Ryne Sandberg: A Cub No More?

Well, the saga goes on…perhaps. Ryne Sandberg an iconic player and then Iowa Farm system manager, gone?  Say it isn’t so, but at this time it appears that  on Wednesday, the Cubs General Manager Jim Hendry made an announcement that Ryne Sandberg has declined to manage the Cubs very successful Cubs Iowa Triple A Team!

Sandberg just recently missed out the chance to manage Major League Baseball’s Chicago Cubs team after Mike Quade was chosen over him to manage the Cubs. The final decision was reached by General Manager Jim Hendry and then “backed” by team owner Ricketts.

It is a shame. The fairy tale was writing itself. The beloved first baseman had the hearts and very definitely the love of the hometown fans!  Now the Hall of Famer has packed his bags, and is off to other destinations unknown and taking with him perhaps the momentum; the tale of a city in love with its team and the final realization of the world series itself! 

Cinderella left when the midnight bell sounded so maybe it was just time for Sandberg to find his perfect vehicle to the team that will bring this young celebrated player and coach the position of his dreams.

Chicago’s fan base may even go with you where ever it may be that Ryne Sandberg happens to land, and for this writer, Here’s to looking at you kid! Wishing you the greatest season of your life where ever you may land!And further on that note here’s to hoping the Chicago Cubs 2011 season is something to talk about!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions and always in a conversationaltone Mary Caliendo

Miley Cyrus Pulling A Brittany?

Say it ain’t so, Hanna Montana is growing up! She turned in to Miley Cyrus~ wow~ that’s unheard of isn’t it? And now the controversy rages on; some say anyway. To my daughter who is slightly younger than the real Miley she is glad that Miley has shed, as she put it, that baby image for who she really is. This girl is an obvious talent and she is a performer who has staying power. She has a great voice and can actually act, even if the lines written for her in some of the things she has been in have been lame! I think we will see Miley for many years to come.

Some early childhood stars were either told they could not change,or don’t change because of fears they would never work again, and well we have seen where all of that has gotten some kids (look at the cast of say Different Strokes, or say even The Brady Bunch) these kids did not morph into the next generation of things to come. While things were way different in different eras, and today there is a  lot more that a child star can do~it is ultimately up to them to further their career.

I am a mother who believes in children’s programming and puts the brakes on the the TV, Dvd’s, the computer,facebook, the internet….should I go on and when it is time to put on the brakes I do! Period. No giving in! When things crossed the line I simply said no. Hard feelings were had and I even got the occasional “I hate you” mutterings, but in the end all of my kids lived on, and they got the doses of hard realities when they should have. I am a firm believer in too much is too much and less is most likely better. My kids saw wholesome programming, but never went to an actual “rock concert” until High School. The ‘tween scene is way too much for my taste! I think that it is utterly ridiculous for a twelve-year-old to go to say Eminem or Brittany. I even think that twelve year olds need not get Bieber fever either. Listen we had Donny Osmond! We were all in love, his pictures were on every girls’ walls and when he sang we all thought truly he was singing directly at us! But we did not “drag” our parents out to a screaming stampede~my mother would have said no and I am certain that once the tears were over I would have gone on.

I think too much is being marketed to the ‘tweens group all together, it is in this writers opinion that Miley Cyrus has her place and that parents have theirs. I think that it is high time that if parents don’t want Miley Cyrus to become a woman and sing and perform like one, okay. That group have their right to disagree with me. I think if they are the parent of a ‘tween and they do not like a performers’ image, clothes or sound-mom, dad time to say NO! Parents the ball is in your court it is up to you to play your game well!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

The Van Der Sloot Saga

Back in November of 2008 I wrote a post entitled Van Der Sloot #1 Slime Ball!, in that post I described Joran van der Sloot as a slime ball; a living the fast lane-brat with anti-social behavior at best, with a constant protector in his lawyer father. I mentioned in that post how I thought in my opinion, on just the previous history that we were all aware of, he needed to be removed from the streets. I thought that it would behoove the authorities to keep him imprisoned before he was apt to hurt yet another human being.

Unfortunately, he is now in the Lima Peru prison on the charges of murder of a young Peruvian woman. He is seen on tape in a casino and seen entering his hotel room in full interaction with Stephany Flores who was found in van der Sloot’s hotel room two days later dead.

The past week has yielded a series of interesting things regarding Joran van der Sloot. The lawyer that came forward to defend van der Sloot has resigned stating that he is receiving death threats. Joran’s mother finally came forward and is talking; like a song bird in fact!  Joran van der Sloot’s mother claims now that his mental health has been in decline since the Holloway case and that she also stated  he was going to be going into a mental institution just before this  all happened. Joran’s father is not here anymore, he has passed away from a  heart ailment. And while he cannot protect him anymore, I am sure that his very closest of friends have spoken with his mother and gave her the idea that she could try to build an insane defence for her son.  Joran’s fate finally looks sealed.

He long-line of intertwined wrong doings and seedy activities peppered with several murders and possible suspicions of two more missing girls in Columbia bring Joran to say he was tricked, and that his rights were violated without due process in Lima! He told a judge on Monday that he was coerced into making a confession and now a judge will have to determine whether or not that Lima authorities violated Joran van der Sloot’s rights by Wednesday.

I wrote in November of 2008 that slime had a way of oozing itself into the cracks of society and spreading itself along the cracks until those cracks were filled and that it would continue to ooze on until the next one was filled. This young man and his anti-social behavior from  the Holloway case, Dutch confession tape, Thailand prostitution tape, possible extortion charges with U.S. FBI, and now to this charge of murder the slime did keep oozing. This brat man-child living in the fast lane could not help himself it appears. It appears to me that he wanted what he wanted and he wanted when he wanted it! This is a scary individual.

It is this writers hope that this guy remain tightly enwrapped in the Castro Castro prison system of Peru never to see the light of day unless it is to answer more charges of murder, kidnap,acts of enslavery/ prostitution, and extortion. It would be an outrage if the judge in Peru rules in van der Sloot’s favor on Wednesday. At this point, Joran is crazy alright~ crazy like a fox and I hope it won’t work for a minute!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Humanity is Disgusting!

Seriously, I sat down to write a post and nothing was on my mind other than the single act of a lone human being to coming to the aid of another. When a person puts themselves in harm’s way to save a life, we deem these heroic, right? Take for instance, firefighters and policeman, we all know at a moments notice these men and women will go to far lengths to save complete strangers. They completely disregard their own lives and safety. And if you are reading this and have had your life saved or that of a loved one rescued you personally know that you are one of the lucky ones.

On Sunday morning at 5:40 AM, on 144 th st & 88th Rd. in Jamaica, Queens New York, a man did just that; he stuck his neck out in not only an act of kindness, but an act of selfless love for his fellow-man. He saw a woman being mugged by another man. This man could not stand to see another inflict pain upon this lone woman walking and  he took action!

Yes, this person was named Hugo Alfred Tale-Yax, he was 32 years old and he is my hero! Why? This man acted upon his instincts and little did he know that he would interject himself into what was about to become his last endeavour of his life. Mr. Tale-Yax, native of Guatemala was out of work. He in fact, was named as a homeless man, but he kept busy by doing odd jobs. He was trying to be an active member of society. Did I mention he was my hero? Notice how I throw that title around? A true hero comes to the aid of another without thinking of the consequences to his person. Mr. Tale-Yax could be anyone, but he isn’t.

Once Mr.Tale-Yax went to aid the woman in peril, he was subsequently stabbed several times in the chest by the woman’s attacker. While this ensued the woman ran away in the other direction. The knife-wielding attacker ran away too, and that left my hero, slowly hitting the ground as he too tried in vain to get away. Soon Mr. Hugo Alfred Tale-Yax perished. But he did not die a lonely death; for at least twenty-five pedestrians passed by his motionless body and it is reported that only 1-2 people actually called 911!  Disgusting and I shake my head. Many touched him and at least one took a picture of him. Perhaps they all thought him a hapless drunk, and did not know what to do; I’ll give that much. But my checks and balances are always to ask myself immediately would I want to be treated that way? If I saw a dying man I would try to help; it’s just me. I can’t be alone in this? Am I?

What if any would you have done? Can we teach and preach love to our fellow-man in church,schools, and tv? Have we become a nation where we can give to hurricane and earthquake victims but not to the lowly hero in town?  Why did this man of great substance die in vain? Why did he have to die at all? Was his number up? Most likely his fate is sealed in what we learn from his selfless act of love for his fellow-man. We need to continue to keep his story in the forefront of everyone’s mind. This is for world-wide consumption, not just for those in New York!  We need to change this people. We need to take time to care for people we do not know. This country needs to change the mind-set of “I want to get mine”! When ever you do something or think of something, please think of the homeless man with the funny name, Hugo Alfred Tale-Yax and pay homage to his selfless act of humanity. He is different from many~he extended a hand to his fellow-man and in turn lost his life.

For all those that strolled by, took pictures, and even laughed as blood pooled on the sidewalk, shame on you. You know who you are and I hope you are as sick to your stomach as I am! You shamed your city, your country and now the world!  For whom ever finally got the fire department there, thank you, it was too late but you had a small feeling in your heart that drove you to try to change that situation.

For me and in my house, I will continue to tell the story of Mr. Hugo Alfred Tale-Yax and his life changing event. I hope to raise children and surround myself with people who love and care and just give a damn!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone!

Mary Caliendo

A Post To Marinade Dave

I just left a little message to Marinade Dave today~ words of encouragement~blogger to blogger to let him know that there are people out here who write content sometimes daily, but most times not, that are filled with the truths as we know them, and the sarcastic deep setimented feelings we may have for the current subject. I left him a message to let him know that despite any accusations that may be out there if we stay true to ourselves and our written words, we will be okay.

A blog is a blog, when does it become more?  In the case of little missing Caylee Anthony, it became a story that grew into more than just a story, it was all about the cute missing little girl. It was also about the general public becoming vested emotionally. It was the chilling thought that thank god it was not us, or it hit us all like a ton of bricks because she was one in a recent parade of the missing and the found dead! Caylee’s story is about sadness. It is about caring grandparents that got side-swiped by something so astronomically repulsive they still don’t believe it!

The Caylee Anthony story made us all remember that it is not just about the creepy bad-guy or the boogie man~it was about a mother too soon with pressures mounting because too many her age have no responsibilities and are out just having fun! It is about parents in my age generation taking away and bearing more and more responsibility for our kids, Casey’s age. It’s life moving too fast for those who don’t have their feet on the ground; or perhaps it is about parents not recognizing problems in their young teens lives and letting it go out the window untreated, and unhealed.  No matter what it really is about, there is a toddler life gone, a young mother rotting in prison, and an endless dollar amount awaiting those living in the state of Florida.

If life imitates art, then of course there’s the upcoming book and movie that will be starring MarinadeDave~ the cool laid-back blogger who took Caylee’s loss emotionally, and his opinions about Casey Anthony and her illustrious staff of professional defenders, that no one can afford, right into the court-room!

I hope that this case can move forward and that it will be determined that the current accusations being strewn about are most untrue. Blogging to me is an expression of my ability to craft together sentences in a pleasing way for others to read. My intent at times is to make you smile and even laugh, but mostly it is to connect on a larger level with people who think like me. So blog away my friends, just always remember the old saying…..sticks and stones will break my bones and words will always get you into some kind of trouble!! Stay in the fight Marinade Dave and fellow bloggers, it’s your right.

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Poor Indigent Casey

Well this past Friday, Judge Strickland has officially declared Casey Anthony indigent for costs. This simply means she does not have the money to pay for her attorneys. Casey could now be appointed a public defender, but she has a team of high priced “experts” in position, and the two lead attorneys state that they will stay on this case. They state that they will continue to do this case pro-bono.

According to Jose Baez and Andrea Lyon  they have been pro-bono this whole time, and that only the expenses of Andrea Lyon have incurred. $11,954.00 have already been paid out that the public and the court is knowledgeable of. We are aware that $90,00.00 has been issued to Baez alone.

There is quite a bit of legal pandering and ploys surrounding this case. The ditching of monies and the transferring of monies is a known way to appear “indigent” or broke. Perhaps it comes at this time another reason that Cindy and George Anthony have let their home go into foreclosure. (Perhaps the pair should not have taken that cruise and paid bills instead!). ABC News and 48 Hours News show have paid fees for family photos of the Anthony’s to the tune of $200,000.00 ! Some obtained funds of $60,000.00 from Larry Garrison and some monies totaling of $100,000.00 of fees paid from unknown sources; that’s a lot of money and where did the rest go?

Hopefully we will not hear about the movie and book deals that were alledged at one time to be impending~it would be a horrendous attack of justice if the state of Florida pays to have this trial only to lose out to TV and publishing houses funneling the money (which I assume would be somewhat illegal), It is in this writer’s opinion that if one can pay as much lawyer fees that have already been paid for, chances are she may not be quite indigent!

On a small other note~ the jail is currently looking into Casey Anthony’s possible violation of jail rules & regulations. There is allegedly some 258 pages of written correspondence between Casey and another inmate housed in the protective custody area of the jail. This violates all rules and poses a security risk.

Will update as more information is known.

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Sandra Bullock & Jesse James Poll

1. Sandra got involved with a complete loser and he is just Tiger’s twin!

2.Sandra simply got blindsided and Jesse didn’t mean it!

3. Sandra should go back with him because he said he was sorry!

4.Who cares?

Please post your comments and votes below!

Just my thoughts,just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

I’m Honked Off How ‘Bout You?

Well if you have been following the news and the papers; I am sure you have heard that many school districts across this country are struggling with finances and unbelievable debt. But today, more than in recent, I have come to an impasse where I am about to blow a gasket! I am honked off and you should be too.

Why? First and foremost, our country built a tradition of passing on knowledge to the next generation. Then we provide public school education to all and we make this a law. If you don’t like the education system, then you get out and home school, right?

But it isn’t about liking or not liking the school system for me; for me it is about the true and utter disrespect being shown to that of every man, woman, and child in my state! Today upwards to 700-750 teachers, substitutes,coaches,library sciences, arts, choir, and band as well as janitorial staff were cut from the second largest school district in my state! We haven’t received the federal funding that was deserved this school and in the last two weeks several other very large school districts did the same, and they also had not received that federal funding. Without the federal funding the pink slips came.

One of the hardest things I have seen in a while is children going to speak into a microphone pleading to keep their teachers, or high school kids facing the loss of scholarship because there will be no music,no choir and no varsity sport.

When I look closely at my tax bill, I see that not only do I pay an absorbent amount of money for my property, I pay even more for my school district. The district that I have chosen to bring my children into. And then I stay because I think that in the long-term my children will benefit from a great school district. But my teachers cannot possibly teach and organize a class with 37 children, or 35 children, or even 30 children!  The children cannot get enough one-on-one attention to help them succeed. There are children that will need the extra help, and those children will fall through the cracks without attention.

There will be a huge amount of failure. And what I think will be worse is that within this model of “do what you can with the least amount of resources” cannot possibly result in anything good.  We are often challenged in the world arena as to why our children are not smarter than other world children is because we forgot to put them first. In most businesses, the business put its self first by paying itself and it is high time that we think about our education system that way too!

Put our kids first, and we pay ourselves by creating a better us. We cannot compete because the dollars are not there! How dare my state even tell us parents that! How dare my country for not thinking of our children first! After all I pay and I pay and I pay and so do you! I am not sure what can be done to help this situation but something needs to be done and done quickly. We created a lottery and lottery money has been designated to go to education systems across the country. You must have seen the sizes of these lottery pots, so I ask my state not only where did all that money go from my taxes, but what about all that lottery money? Where is it at?

Where is it all at?  Have you so badly mismanaged it? Have you squandered it? Then if not where can the itemization be seen? Pray tell?

I’m honked off and you should be too! Put our kids first and those educated kids will graduate and with any luck they will be smarter than the average politician running the country now!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone. Mary Caliendo

Teflon Drew???

Hey let’s hope not! I liken Drew Peterson at this point to the back story of John Gotti. Why? Because the guy got away with murder for the longest time until finally someone close to him gave investigators the puzzle piece that was needed to seal his fate and end his life of crime.

In the case of Drew Peterson, he meant to be a good person and even became a cop, but then the ego and the power became too much for the person to handle!  The new insights into what he could do behind the badge were not only enticing but fueled, and it looks like, drove him more! It became easy for him to do illegal things and get away with them. The underlying abuser burst forth and the rest is about to be history!

As you may know the wise-cracking clown cop has been behind bars charged in the death of his third wife Kathleen Savio and is a suspect (the only suspect) in the disappearance of his fourth wife Stacy Peterson. Currently in Joliet IL hearings are continuing on the prospective evidence regarding the hearsay law or coined “Drew’s Law” against Drew Peterson. As many as sixty people will parade in front of the judge and he rule whether thereis enough evidence to allow the hearsay in the court room against Drew Peterson when the trial begins.    

So far, and at this point friends, neighbors, family members, co-workers  and colleagues of the befallen wives have been called to witness. It has been chilling and interesting the things that have been said by those who have already taken the stand. Today, 1/26/2010 a reverend was to take the stand. This reverend Stacy Peterson was said to have confided in. He was said to have counseled her. What came out thus far today was that he was indeed counseling her and Drew too! How about that? When he counseled Stacy the reverend insisted on it being in a public place. The two would have meetings in the local Caribou Coffee shop, but when Drew and Stacy were counseled together, they did it with the reverend in the privacy of their own home. Today, as the reverend was about to show facts about what took place in those session/sessions together Brodsky and team Peterson put a stop to it. He asked the judge to seal the court. Brodsky argued that Drew Peterson told these things in confidence and that he did not want his client to endure a break in that confidentiality! Wow! But here’s the funny part-the judge allowed it! All media was removed and the room was cleared. The hearing then continued with just the defendant and the lawyers present.

We will keep on top of this as it seems that perhaps Drew’s own words will come back to haunt him! Only time will tell if the teflon is wearing off! Meanwhile, the Drew Drama Zoo continues on full-steam ahead!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone!

Mary Caliendo

Gun-Toting NBA !

I’m a sport fan, how about you? My family follows all of our local sports and even continues to support the teams even in the lowly losing years. But for a myriad of reasons, this writer and this writers’ family have turned away from the NBA and basketball in general.

The amount of scandal present in the NBA is truly unbelievable! From the officiating to the players, the game has changed. This change is about the whole of what  is the NBA and the game of basketball. The games seem to possess a genre of thuggery. The activity on the floor looks more like a game that goes on at the park district where kids  make bets and the referee is from down the street and  definitely can be on your side if you know what I mean! Though, we tune in from time to time and continue to track the scores, we don’t buy tickets or basketball memorabilia anymore! Even the blue light on TV has gone off and we can’t bear to watch! So what else can we do?

We appeal to David Stern and all those powers to be, please make some drastic changes! If we have gone picture this: empty stadiums all over, garage sales filled to the brim with coveted jerseys, and basketballs not being bought at the sporting good store! If I have left and turned away, imagine the droves of people who also will go away after this season too!(and there will be more) Dissention is everywhere.

Take for example the Gilbert Arenas gun incident, finally Mr. David Stern stepped up! He grew a pair and suspended him indefinitely! Arenas stands to lose $147,200.00 per game! And this serves him right, if I toted a gun/guns to my job I’d have been fired immediately! Period. No questions. How about you? It is a criminal act to pull a gun (loaded as well) and threaten another individual with it. As well as gambling, as well as drug taking, blah blah blah………our employment has rules and these guys aren’t just hanging out and doing a hobby, this is their job. These guys should be held to the letters of the laws like all the other Joes in America; period!

Everyone makes mistakes, like being late to their job because they had to fight traffic to get there and now the person is tardy. Or once in a great while, everyone plays a bit of hooky but come on NBA! If you want people to come back-catch it quickly because I see a giant fan base pulling away from the NBA and basketball in general. No one wants to watch sloppy basketball and wonder if the guys are high or the officials are on the take, or finally if the players are stand up guys. So what the NBA and David Stern can do is spell it out ASAP, lay down the law. Accept nothing but the best, period!

The most of us true hard-core sport fan just want to sit down and watch a great game!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Casey Anthony on Broadway!

For shame, shame on Steven Sodeberg!  The very creative director of such blockbusters like Erin Brockovich and the Ocean’s Eleven series, has launched an idea to create a new play and have it featured on broadway in Sydney Australia! Sounds great, right?

Why shameful? Because the play that Mr. Sodeberg has now written is one that is no less than extremely controversial here in states, that’s why! He has written a play with the subject matter being none other than Casey Anthony and her now deceased child Caylee Anthony! It first boarders on the yuck factor and then it lands on the really? factor! Why would a guy of his stature choose this subject matter? This is a matter that is not resolved yet either!  The trial has not begun, and while I have not even read one word of this possible Broadway stint, I feel that at this time it may very well be a terrible idea.

This case has catapulted all of America and now the world to come in contact with a little girl whose untimely death has sparked our core heartstrings and often brought the general caller to shows and messages to tears, will soon reach the crescendo in a trial that may well be filled with the hype and grandeur of the OJ case!  While many of the case documents have been shown to the public and TV and news/talk shows have had extensive coverage and debate still all the facts are not known. The actual trial and all of its spin will prove to be very interesting as well as awful in the discovery of all the facts as it relates to the loss of this a tiny defenseless little girl. Caylee Anthony will always be remembered. She has been memorialized in the most public of ways.

Her short life will be a never-ending one. And the trial of the mother who should’ve have loved and protected her will start soon, but that affair will be long, and drawn out and will be also a never-ending one! The coverage will be extensive and even macabre. We may even get sick of turning on the TV and will wish for it to all go away! Then suddenly a play will open on Broadway written by Mr. Sodeberg and I’ll shake my head and say I knew this was going to happen. I’ll be secretly hoping that it will bomb and ticket sales will be so low that opening show and closing show will be the same night.

Upon further review, the Casey Anthony defense team may even file a motion to suppress the release of the play depending on the content; that’s Baez way after all. Mr. Sodeberg perhaps you should wait until the trial is over before you open that play down under. Who knows the original thoughts that are in your head may even have you sitting in the court room amongst the new celebrity you will have helped to elevate; Casey Anthony! Perhaps the profit you make from the play could go to the tax payers of the State of Florida or the United States to off-set the super ugly costs involved!  Now that would be an original idea wouldn’t it be?

Just my thoughts, just my opinions,and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Too Many Children Murdered!

What in the world is going on? Too many little children of late are turning up missing and then discovered dead or perhaps never found again! Just today, the awful discovery and confirmed identification of the little girl in Florida is just so painful. It is so painful to hear, that yet another goes; fallen to an adult kidnapper!  It is unreal.

Why does it seem that there is no reverence for the lives of people? What has happened to the innocence of life? Where are those days when people in general sat around and talked to each other? It would be a spectacular thing to return to those times. All is not lost, right?

Perhaps if we could get more people into churches or really paying it forward to next guy. How about even just the passing smile given to the person next to you on public transportation, or holding the door for the little old lady. How about fighting for those teens in the inner city of Chicago? 

Today I heard Diena Thompson the mother of the little seven year old girl who was kidnapped, and now murdered take a stance. It was hard and painful to listen to the utter anguish of her pleas to bring her daughter home in the days prior to today. Now that the positive identification has been made, this mother has said they will find you and get you. She also told the person that they had better watch out! Watch out we’re coming we’re going to get you! I am glad that she is now angry-she has more than a right to be angry. Gosh I’m angry too! 

Diena Thompson also stated that once the police do catch this sick predator, she hopes that the person or persons would be strung up!  I agree.

What in the world is going on? What is also taking place in Florida? Are predator laws too lax there?   But more full-circle comes the struggle for young adults and teens . They already have angst. They already may be feeling like rebelling. Whatever the reasoning behind this struggle, parents need to continue to be parents no matter what the age.  We need to have eyes in back of our heads, we cannot leave tiny babes for one minute, and we need to get to know our teens and their friends. We as parents need to keep vigil no matter what!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Short Hiatus

I’ve just gotten my computer repaired tonight,so I will return this week on Tuesday.

 

Just my opinions, just my thoughts, and always in a conversationaltone

Mary Caliendo

Drew Peterson-Can You Hear Stacy?

I was just wondering Drew Peterson, how it feels to be defeated at every turn?  It must feel pretty bad, right? On Friday Judge Stephen White heard the motions put forth by one of Peterson’s attorneys Andrew Abood, and denied them both!

The former Sgt. in the Bolingbrook Police Force has been charged with first-degree murder and is awaiting the start of a trial in the Joliet prison system. Judge Stephen White did uphold the fact that it is constitutional for Stacy Peterson’s words to family, friends, and to a pastor to be admitted into the trial.  Stacy Peterson is Drew Peterson’s fourth wife and is currently missing. The judge further went on to deny the motion that was also brought to say the Drew Peterson could not get a fair and impartial trial in the city of Joliet and the county of Will. The judge felt that there was no reason why he could not get a fair trial in the county/and city. In fact some time ago the judge took approx. 240  potential jurors and put forth official court orders for these people to not view or listen to any reports that involved Drew Peterson or the Drew Peterson case.

Mr. Joel Brodsky, Peterson’s other attorney feels a bit disappointed as he says a lawyer cannot defend against the hearsay rule. He further explained that a lwayer cannot refute, or rebut the words nor can he cross-examine the words for motive or bias.

I am pretty sure that in this case, the hearsay rules will help to solidify all of the evidence. Remember that Mr. Peterson is in jail for murder on former wife Kathleen Savio in 2004. There is considerable evidence that points to Mr. Peterson being the perpetrator in that death.  And further that he has much to do with the disappearance of fourth wife Stacy. A sort of “pre-trial” will take place to prove there is enough evidence to prove the hearsay is reliable and that he is the only suspect in these two crimes.

It’s only a matter of time now.

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

David Letterman-Sex/Extortion Attempt

It was revealed by David Letterman on his show last night, that he was effectively being blackmailed! Letterman is the center of a scandal of sorts that was perpetrated or being perpetrated by an employee of the show 48 Hours!

This employee found out/and or taped the comedic talk-show host having had or having sex with employees that were under his employ. Mr. Letterman came out on his show a defended himself in order to protect his family and his employees. Letterman stoic, but in a light-hearted way, told his fans and all of America that he went to the authorities and they did find enough evidence for a grand jury, which then brought charges. The employee, Joe Halderman, a 20+ year employee, approached Letterman saying that he would be a subject to a screenplay if he did not want to give him 2 million dollars. He was taken into custody when Halderman took a phony 2 million dollar check! While this 48 Hours employee sought to extort only the sum of 2 million dollars from Mr. Letterman, he is worth a great deal of money as well as his enterprises that include a production company.

Mr. Letterman has taken a route that embraced honesty with his family, friends, and employees. He admitted to having sexual affairs with employees that worked for him. This is a serious issue and while Letterman did poke fun at the subject, his audience was somewhat appeared somewhat confused at times. But the show went on.

I imagine that just because you are David Letterman does not mean that he would not  have had frequent trips to the water cooler, or that he may not have  had to make a ditto copy in which he may have met a pretty office intern that he  clicked with! I imagine that since this happens in offices everyday, just about everywhere, I’m sure it happened there too! Being David Letterman though may have “sealed” the deal! We should not be surprised in the least.

Mr. Letterman married the mother of his son and his long -time girlfriend(since 2001) Regina Lasko in March of 2009. She too was a production manager with the show.

It’s too bad there are so many losers out there in the world. 48 Hours is a show that many hold a light to. The audience is usually well-educated individuals, seeking a news type format with the intrigue of a mystery or a deep investigative story-line. But this particular person thought they had something quite hot and instead of selling the story to a tabloid, the person tried to extort Mr. Letterman. Good luck mystery extorter we will be reading about you in the future as you are hauled off to do time in a prison!

Perhaps we’ll see your story in a tabloid, or even on Mr. Letterman’s show itself!  Most likely you will have generated $$ money. But not for you, for David Letterman!  It’s funny how things work out isn’t it?

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone!

Derrion Albert-Chicago Cries For You!

For the second day in a row-The City of Big Shoulders-The very Windy City, sheds tears and they are not tears of joy. We are crying out for the life of a young boy who is now dead! This Chicago Public High School boy joins a very sad statistical list. This one no one wants to be on-but now Derrion is on it!

Why? Why did Derrion have to loose his life? Two opposing groups within the Fenger HighSchool decided to fight. Derrion was not part of these groups-he was an innocent bystander- when he was severely and fatally attacked, and kicked and then finally hit continuously with  a wooden rail-road tie! Where in the world are these boys’ hearts!  Don’t they realize that they could kill a person by hitting them and kicking him and hitting him with a rail road tie? Has our society desensitized them? What can we do to change this? 

Many have marched, protested, and had memorials and vigils-what else can we do? These boys that have been arrested know that they have been identified by the taping of the fight. They know that they are facing life or perhaps the electric chair (even though the State of IL has suspended them, I think the crime would fit the punishment). Parents where are you?  Please try to keep tabs even on your high schooler-it is important for you to know their friends, to know where they are going, and to give them rules to live by.  Take them to church. Talk to your teenager, value them, and tell them you actually love them. Stake your claim to your child; take back your child! Let them know that the family is so much more important than any gang ever period!

Derrion Albert was only 16 years old!  He was only just beginning to live-he was an honor roll student who cared about life,God, his parents and family. A decent, loving, caring human being was being raised and all the right moves were being made. Now that CNN has brought the story to the world, witnesses are now coming forward to coobberate the video. At this point an 18 year old,a 17 year old, and a 16 year is being charged as an adult. And there may be as many as 7 young teens charged in all.

Chicago and now the world, says a silent prayer in their hearts for Derrion Albert-a young boy gone way too soon amid violence,mayhem and madness!

Stop the violence and hang on tightly to the ones you love.

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Thank you CNN for bringing the story to the world, but let’s cut the video now-we don’t need to see it any more!

Halle Berry A Better Dress Day!

In an attempt to follow-up on the other Halle Berry Bad Dress Day written months ago, and in answer to what the people are looking for: here’s a small, short post about the appearance of Halle Berry on Jay Leno’s new  Tonight Show.

Halle was one of Jay’s guests the other night and while they showed a montage of movies that Halle Berry was in, she talked about being a new mom again.And with this dress Halle disspelled the myth that she is prego.!  She isn’t!  This time Halle had a cute black party dress on.  To Show off her non-prego body, it was short and feminine with a small “tutu” fly-away skirt.  She had it paired with some black thigh-high boots. This only showed a tiny bit of leg but was far more sexy than the other “get-up” she had on, on the other show. Thankfully she hired someone to help her dress!  Halle’s hair was quite short, but little curls rose up here and there with a bit of gel. Her make-up looked great and natural. While Jay Leno gushed over Halle, an obvious show of affection, (similar to that of Conan and David Letterman)it seems that Jay Leno has his favorites and they reappear more often than some and Halle is on Jay’s good list!

Well Halle Berry had a great dress day this time!  Let’s hope on her next appearance she can take it down a notch and show up in some nice jeans or something! (unless of course you’re going out partying afterward) Sometimes less is so much more!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationalTone.

Mary Caliendo

Whitney Houston Resurrection!

Everytime I think that I have seen the last of the best of the feel good stories-here comes Oprah again! I hope you all caught the recent two-day interview of Whitney Houston on the Oprah show.

This interview was not only dramatic, it was sad and then finally glorious.  Now Whitney has not survived a fatal illness, or overcame a tragic accident that has left her maimed, no Whitney is surviving her life!  Now that’s big right? Well, yes it is when you are Whitney Houston and Bobbie Brown.   At one time Whitney was on top of the world with anything and everything she could want. Is part of Whitney and Bobbie Brown’s problem having too much too fast? Most likely that was a contributing factor in all of this!

Ms Houston went deep into her soul and revealed a lot of what took place within the marriage of the two. The excesses, the loves, and finally the realization that all of it was definitely not working! Whitney’s account shows what the taking and abusing the drugs and alcohol that the two were engaged in ravaged not only their marriages, their careers, and finally their lives. Ms Houston let us in on some awful insights of the garbage that was taking place in their home. Her conversation with Oprah was stunning. 

I’m glad to hear when a star or a singer wants to be clean, sober, and happy just like the rest of us. I hope that after the dramatization of Whitney’s life via the “Oprah Effect” is still going strong many years to come from now. I am hoping that she was not only sincere, but serious because Oprah put herself out there as Whitney’s friend. It was a wonderful thing that after finding out how terrible Whitney’s drug use was and the fact that she was so low- that simply a desire to raise her child and show her child that she could have much to be proud of in her mother.  Whitney claimed that Bobbie Brown had no knowledge of that interview and most likely she’d be hearing something as Bobbie Brown did not look so great!  In fact, he looked just like a typical abuser! The very fact that he spat into the face of Whitney is simply deplorable!  And it is something that is the lowest  thing that one can do to another. Sad. I hope that it was his drug/alcohol abuse that caused that!

Let’s hope the two of them will get on with their lives and Whitney will continue in the upward spiral back to the top of reining diva!!  It would be great to turn on the radio or see a movie and hear Whitney again!  She has given us some of the greats! Her new stuff is a different Whitney. She is older and wiser, and she exudes more throaty soul as she sings! Let her voice crack a bit, after all she’ll show character and the wrinkles of the past! To me, her short singing appearance on Oprah was great! She was vibrant, but appeared nervous for the first few seconds and then Whitney stepped back into the shoes she once wore! Whitney resurrected!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationalTone.

Mary Caliendo

Kanye West -Mr. Jacka$$

Well I have waited some days now to see if the Kanye West steam roller engine would exhaust itself and simply die down, but the locomotive has only picked up speed and is blowing out more steam than ever!

So I guess I would be remiss if I too did not vent my all too familiar writer feelings out in a small snippet of finely crafted paragraphs, and letting my readers chime in on their thoughts about my thoughts!  So I’ll just start here, and borrow a line from the leader of our free world- “Kayne is a Jackass”!  True enough I think that at this point Kayne knows for real, that Kayne is a true Jackass too!

Thank you Mr. President Obama for giving me yet another reason to love you again!  You are real and we all identify!

I’m just wondering what a sloppy, drunken rapper did to get past say security, back stage people and who ever else is backstage at an awards show, to actually get on to stage, and grab the microphone from any recipient! It was released widely that CNN got a hold of  words used by Kayne West himself that went, I had a bit too much sippy, sippy and got a little tipsy, tipsy—whoa!  Sounds like a new song?  Or was it already a song??  Anyway, a stroke of luck brought the scheduled performer to the Jay Leno stage, where Leno asked a couple of great questions -such as -what would your mother have thought of this behavior?  Any mother would not be proud of that display period!  I’m glad Kayne West felt sorry, ashamed, and embarrassed -he should have! It was unclassy, child-like behavior that little children are put into corners for.  Thank you Beyonce’ you are a class act in my opinion!  In my eyes there is not one thing you can do wrong, ya know that Jay-Z thing!   OH girl, yes I did!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone!

Mary Caliendo

Remembering September 11th!

No matter what you do today, remember 9/11. Why? To keep this date on our minds and in our hearts. We can see a million ceremonies on TV today, but it will not touch you more than your personal family erecting a large American Flag in front of your house, or taking part in a small observance of silence, or perhaps bringing a plate of cookies,cupcakes, or brownies to your local firehouse.

Teaching our next generation about the mindset of hate and changing that. Teaching children that things like this do exist in other nations, but deflecting it and having the children experience honor and respect for others is paramount. And finally let the world know that we care for the next guy, that this country can/and has pulled together as a unit to encourage time for reflection and honor.

So like the old song says “Teach your children well”; show them the importance of remembering and end that cycle of hate and hopefully our vigilance will cause change to happen-even if it has to go far into the mountain caves of Afghanistan or just the streets of hometown USA!

Remembering September 11th! Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Cubs Big Z Took a Big ZZZZZZ!

Well, the Chicago Cubs played the Mets and were hoping to be able to bring out the brooms to make the clean sweep. But the inevitable happened!  Why inevitable you say?  Well it feels like a reoccurring nightmare for many, many Cub Fans!

When the Chicago Cubs needed big play for their ace pitcher, he was asleep at the wheel. Big Z taking a big Z!  And if the Chicago Cubs are to stay alive in this at all, we need to win!  After having two straight victories the Chicago Cubs were riding high and the fans in the stands were responding to a great feeling in the air!  It felt like the team was building momentum and perhaps were going to unleash the longest win streak this year!

Zambrano has not gone past the fifth inning since 7/27/09! Yesterday Zambrano was pulled out after only 3 1/2 innings and he the Mets had mounted 11 hits and 4 runs at that point. Lou Piniella yanked Big Z out! The Mets came to play, and the Cubs did not. To the Mets credit, their batters hit Big Z and made the runs count. To Zambrano, our bats did remain virtually hitless against the Mets yesterday and the flat affect was contagious.

Lou Piniella stated that everyone wants to write off the team already, he stated in the Chicago Tribune that he thought it was funny and the fact that no one gives the team a chance -just to keep it that way, that’s fine with him!  He went on to say that what people write about the team has no bearing on how the team plays!

Well most of us “real” fans never ever say the team is out until it is mathematically out of it ! Period. Perhaps this is just one bump in a short road-but this writer will still bleed blue until the end! We need a long streak of wins, and reduce that “10” games out and that sinking feeling that it isn’t this year! Here’s hoping that Big Z will not only step up to the plate next time, but he will come with blazing pitching and lead our team to the pennant race the Chicago Cubs should be in.  So instead of taking some ZZZZ’s, Big Z will wake up out of his funk and lead us to another big No-No and put us right where we need to be!  Go Cubs Go!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Milton Bradley Cries Race!

Believe it or not Milton Bradley is trying to use the race card!!! Milton Bradley stated yesterday that the treatment of the fans was not only nasty, it was racial abuse! He says he faces hatred on a daily basis. Then he goes on to claim that when he goes out to restaurants and in general everyone he sees it treating him with racial hatred and that no one wants to see this!!

I’m not sure if or what Milton Bradley must face personally on the outside privately and in the public. And I would be ashamed of Cub fans if they were yelling racial epitaphs; because this is not only extremely rude it is also uncalled for. But I do feel that at this point in the baseball season everyone is expressing major frustration.

While Milton Bradley cannot site an exact incident that occurred with a Cub fan, Bradley states that he prays for only a nine inning game so he can get out of there and off the field!

Bradley must remember a couple of tidbits, Bradley is very expensive- he signed a three year $30 million dollar contract!  And true fans of the game of baseball want to see Bradley as a very productive part of the team. It’s rough here in Chicago, the fans do not and most likely should not accept slumps that many a player have had on this team. The fans love a winner. The fans love a team in first place. And lastly the fan pays a pretty price in heart, soul, and ticket price.

The Cubs organization, we are glad to say, finally will pay the big money for the big guns but when the gun won’t shoot the fans cry foul! While we cannot and will not excuse nasty fans that spew racial fodder, the Cubs organization will remove a fan whom is accused of spewing hatred in the stands. Thank you. At this point there has not been anyone removed for that reason that has been generally reported.

I think it is great the Milton Bradley hit the homer the other night, and this will help dispel the heat. Professional sports players know that the fan has high expectations of the player. The fan wants a win anyway we can get it. But for Milton Bradley and all the players current,previous, and those yet to play within the friendly confines of Wrigley Field  fans will not boo you when you produce. The more you produce the better you’ll be and the fans will love you!  Keep a chin up Bradley, it’s nothing personal!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Chris Brown Lightly Sentenced!

Singer Chris Brown faced the judge in Los Angeles Superior Court on Tuesday. Chris Brown does not know how lucky he is! The charge of making criminal threats was dropped; this carried felony charges and often requires jail time. Singer Rihanna was not present in court, but Chris Brown did admit to the felony assault. The judge issued an official order to the pair that they are to stay away from each other, and further, neither party is allowed to contact the other in any way.

Chris Brown’s sentence amounts to five years’ probation and six months of labor probation. The judge admonished Chris Brown harshly in court. She went on to tell the young singer that if he violated the terms of the sentencing in any way, he will be sent to jail in the state prison. His sentence will be served in Chris Brown’s home state of Virginia. 

As told by the judge his sentence does not include talking to others, the judge made it clear to Brown and his attorney Mark Geragos, that he is to serve physical labor not community service! Perhaps we will spy Chris Brown in an orange jumpsuit along the highway, or perhaps painting a public building?

I personally think that Chris Brown was lucky that this did not require jail time and that he was able to negotiate the lighter sentence. Chris Brown was falling into the cycle of domestic violence. A deadly cycle, that often all too well we know what the outcome will be. But what my long -term hope  that will come from this, is that  perhaps by catching him at the young age of twenty he will be able to get counseling to end the cycle of domestic violence. He can learn that it is a wonderful thing to be in love with someone who will not only care for you but honor and respect you.

Ending the cycle of abuse is important to all the young people coming up, in fact if he was smart at all-Brown will do a song or a whole album in honor of “what I just leanrned” about how abuse is not cool and then  donate this money to several of the large and small groups out there doing great work  to end that cycle.

Good luck Chris Brown and Rihanna I hope that we will never see the likes of you in court again!  Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationalTone.

Mary Caliendo

Jasmine Fiore Identified by Breast Implant!

This past Thursday, model and personal trainer to be,  Jasmine Fiore was found dead in a suitcase in a trash container in Buena Park, CA. It has been widely reported that Ms. Fiore had been dismembered and also brutally mutilated so much so, that she had to be positively identified by her breast implant serial numbers!!

Her ex-husband Ryan Jenkins would be accused of this heinous act. Ryan Jenkins, a self-made millionaire who starred on the VH1 show “Megan Wants a Millionaire” was now missing. The real-estate investor and developer was now being charged with first degree murder. The search for him was on. While Ms. Fiore’s car was missing as well. The media and the Los Angeles Police launched a blitz to get the word out that they were looking for Ryan Jenkins in connection with this crime.

When this past Sunday night the manager of The Thunderbird Motel in British Columbia called the Canadian Mounted Police to report a dead man in their motel. They had found a man hanged from the bar of the coat rack by a belt.  The motel manager told police that a woman checked the pair into the motel while the man waited in a car (PT Cruiser w/Alberta Canada tags). The manager further explained that he did not recognize the man from TV as being Ryan Jenkins. The manager stated that this man looked tired and not that of  the man he had seen on TV. The police either know who the woman is that drove and checked Ryan Jenkins into the motel, or they have a good idea who she is. They are currently  looking to speak with that woman with whom they believe Ryan Jenkins had a known relationship with. They have not released weather or not she would be charged with a crime.

It was reported earlier that Ryan Jenkins has had domestic violence issues in the past. He had been charged with an assault on another woman he had previously dated. Clips of Ryan Jenkins performance on the VH1 show, show that he even makes a comment that he has a “bad-boy” side. It is too bad that VH1 could not have made a connection with the bad-boy person Ryan Jenkins had become. And if they had? What of it, would it have stopped this awful bloodshed? Highly unlikely. This self -confessed “bad-boy” was overlooked in many circles because he had money. And this money made the man and it appears that no one looked any further.

My thoughts go out to the family of Jasmine Fiore as they try desperately to digest all this awful information on the details of the crime that their loved-one had succumbed to. Also sadness to the parents of Ryan Jenkins as they could never ever have predicted that he would do something so awful and heinous!

Perhaps someday soon we can eliminate domestic violence so that the next woman will not have to be identified by the serial numbers of a breast implant!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationalTone.

Mary Caliendo

Casey Anthony Realizing Her Fate?

The appearance of Casey Anthony and the CMA team in court the other day spied a change in her demeanor. Also the appearance of her mother and father behind her may have had an effect as well. George and Cindy Anthony showing up for her support. George blowing a kiss to his ensconced daughter finally turned up the dial on the water works.  Casey Anthony eyes welled up with huge tears. She quietly wiped them with the available Kleenex.

Her appearance and demeanor has changed quite dramatically since her last appearance. She looks as if she may finally know exactly what type of trouble she is in. Casey Anthony her hair is longer and her skin color showing the pallor of being indoors. According to the jail, Casey Anthony is locked up for approximately twenty-three hours per day. She is in the position of solitary confinement due to her tumultuous crime and the high-profile image of her.

Her team of lawyers has finally gotten to her and told her to check her attitude at the door!  She was most likely told that her attitude and the facial expressions that she exudes to the public (who may potentially become her jury) may cause her harm, and that she seems uncaring and insensitive. She has to try for the “please feel sorry for me” looks, or “I am just a confused innocent”!  It will be hard for her to get the public opinion that she will need. P.S. That’s my opinion!

It appears that the Baez team is trying for any other angle that they can conceivably come up with to create a shadow of a doubt. Just recently Baez is asking for Casey Anthony ex-boyfriend Tony Lazzaro phone records- possible trying to create a “story” that perhaps he was the one who did it and had the opportunity to “dump” Caylee Anthony in those woods while Casey Anthony was already being held in jail!  Ugh!  In this writer’s opinion, it is utterly disgusting that they could try to weasel this past the judge and or even a jury! Hopefully the educated minds of possible jurors that are out there will be smarter and will look only at the true evidence!  Surely the circus will most likely be delayed, but just in case October is not so far away! Here’s to hoping the trial starts soon!

Here’s also hoping that Casey Anthony has full realization that she faces something  severe and  that she also realizes that it is most likely that she is not going to just “get out” of this mess. 

I’ll say it again, too bad she didn’t take her mom up on the “you go out and party and I’ll take the baby” . Too bad for everyone.

Just my thoughts, just my opinions and always in a conversationalTone.

Mary Caliendo

Usain Again!

 Twenty-three year old Usain Bolt does it again!  He sets yet another record! Yesterday a jet passed through on the track in Berlin atthe 200 meter finals at the World Championships! Usain is running insanely! Bolt is not only setting the records, he also crushing them!  He ran that 200 meter in 19.19 seconds! He is .11 seconds faster than his own record that he set in Beijing only one short year ago!

There has not been a person around in 88 years that has lowered the 100 meter mark like Usain Bolt has done. And no one in in the past 11 World Championships has ever won the 200 meters with a .33 margin with the exception of Michael Johnson.

Usain is a tall man, and speculators contend that perhaps the young man’s stride length is why he is running like the wind! Our American Tyson Gay was out with a groin pull and did not race the 200 meter, following as closely behind the wind was Our American Wallace Spearmon with a great time of 19.85!

Usain is confident that he will be running for years, he is proud and strong and believes that he will be knighted in his country of Jamaica. He stated in an interview that of late the steroid question has popped up. He contends that while others are testing positive, he is not. He says he is not offended he will show  them all as he continues to run and to win.

Usain trains hard and for his effort he will also now be paid quite well as he proudly represents his country and the sport of Track & Field.

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationalTone.

Mary Caliendo

The First Lady in Shorts!

Once again Michelle Obama will send the gossipers whispering, the pundits analyzing, and pollers making polls of public opinion. And what now could the newest frenzy be? Well of course how the first lady is dressed that’s what!

Everyone in the field of fashion and beauty are continually going crazy as Mrs. Obama sets trend after trend in the White House. Mrs. Obama employs advisers who help her dress; they make suggestions, they bring in designers in the top ring of fashion, and they will otherwise assist Michelle Obama with anything she may need help with in her overall appearance.

Of late, Michelle Obama has gotten quite a bit of criticism over the way she was dressed on a family vacation in the Grand Canyon. The story has been picked up by the most major of networks to the little local newspaper. Mrs. Obama was not dressed in a sexual manner,nor was she bearing any type of  visual trademark summer wear. So the controversy is not over her endorsing something. It is over her legs showing! Many believe that Michelle should not wear these kind of clothes as she is a representative of our country and should look so proper all the time. Twenty four hours a day and seven days a week!

All that this writer has to say is COME ON!  Everyone needs to get over themselves. She is on a family vacation, with her children visisting a wonderful United States National Park and all that is focused on is what she is wearing!  I think that is much ado about nothing! I’d rather hear about the wonderful way a mother interacts with her children as they seek to find enjoyment in the bonding experience of a vacation. I’d rather hear about the fact that they are together in spite of being in the position that they are in. I am glad that they keep on just being themselves. It’s fun to see that they are trying to stay as real as they can be in the world in which they live!

It’s great to see that even with a staff of advisers Michelle Obama decided that in the heat of Arizona, in the late of the month of August, she wanted to wear shorts. It’s okay by me that this woman wanted to enjoy herself in the freedom of her country being a mom!  And the freedom in our country lets the first lady choose to wear normal “mom” styled khaki shorts instead of some uptight pant suit, capri suit, or Chanel type dress set for a vacation in a national park! She has the look and the feel of a relaxed individual, who is not uptight and enjoys just being the cool and confidant woman she is!

I say kudos to you Mrs. Obama! Keep being you. We’ll all keep writing and don’t you give in. You are in a position to change the world with your beauty, confidence, and assuredness. I for one am glad you are real!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationalTone.

Mary Caliendo

Cocaine on Your Money!

caocaine on your moneyIt’s true and it is sad. There are chances that the money in your purse or your wallet today carries traces of the illegal drug! Yuegang Zuo, who is a professor at the University of Massachusetts in Dartmouth led a study that looked at bank notes from seventeen United States cities. The researchers took 234 bills in all and found that 90% of the money had trace cocaine on it!

The bills that came from larger cities for example, Boston, Detroit, and Baltimore had the highest average of cocaine levels. Salt Lake City had the lowest trace amounts. While these trace amounts are not large in fact they are so small that no one need worry about these levels doing anything to our health or our well-being. The amounts in some cases are said to be thousands of times smaller than that of a simple grain of sand! 

But this just shows that even in a country as large as this, with as much paper money there is floating around, it does not surprise us to find that everything and anything could be just about anywhere! My mother told us way back when to never put money in our mouths and to always wash our hands. Money goes around the world and back again, you never know where it stopped before you!  Money is the root of all evil, some will believe, and now money is very dirty for real! Tainted with whatever! You don’t know where anything has been for that matter.

So weather it is paper money bills that were used in drug interactions or the action of snorting up the nostrils, be good people and wash your hands after handling. You never know you could be saving your own life!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions ,and always in a conversationalTone.

Mary Caliendo