Another awful anniversary has past just yesterday, April 30, the disappearance of a woman. We hear this thing too much of late, that another woman goes missing. Police suspect fowl play but have a cold trail. And in many of these cases the one and only “person of interest” is that of the womans’ husband. A vigil for Lisa Stebic was held on Thursday that marked the two year anniversary of her disappearance.
It is all too familiar that the evidence trail leads only back to the husband. In Lisa Stebic’s case the couple had begun the divorce proceedings and on the very day that she disappeared she had mailed off papers to her lawyer for the eviction of her husband. Eviction to me means that he did not want to go willingly. Further steps had to be taken in order to ask him to leave. It is shameful that we (everyone) can equate our lives into just simple things. It’s awful that we can marry someone, produce beautiful children with them, and then suddenly we don’t just dislike this partner- we hate them! It is shameful that adults cannot agree to move on, especially when both spouses want it to begin with.
Domestic abuse happens everyday, it has no racial boundries, it has no socioeconomic borders and it is everywhere. We need to somehow put a stop to this. We can join the national abuse groups, we can go on walks, and we can give money to the cause. But I say let us teach our children that sometimes when we grow up we may not love or even like that person we have married! Let’s teach them how to handle situations that involve our spouses. Teach them to love themselves and to ask to be treated that way, and to never get stuck in a situation that gets so heated that they will not be able to handle.
I personally could not attend the vigil for Ms Stebic, but I did say my personal prayers for her, for her children, and for her extended family and friends. I hope and pray that some evidence turns up to help find Lisa Stebic so that she could have her day of grace and then my pity goes out to whom ever had a hand in her demise. Your day will come and while you have spread the pain and hurt around for two years to others as well as her remember “do unto others” for you will get yours two-fold.
In Lisa Stebic’s case there is an award out there for $75,000 for any information leading to her whereabouts. In the meantime, let us think of the purple butterfly and the heartfelt line that read “even though you are not with us anymore, you’re in our thoughts, in our memories, and in our hearts forever”. (this was printed on a sign that was posted at the vigil and then reported on in the Chicago Tribune by freelance writer Joseph Ruzich).
Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a ConversationalTone.