Category Archives: real life commentary

A Little Bit of Something

So much to bitch about and there’s so little time!

The holiday’s are coming, so I’m sure my ire will be elevated, and I’ll be willing to bet that yours will be too!  After all, it’s time to hit the stores to buy food,(and booze) and presents and more food and way more (booze) (notice how I’m trying to whisper in parenthesis?) Anyway, a certain amount of the bah hum bugs happens because there are people out and about that barely ever come out of their houses to do much of anything, let alone to shop for kids presents or food for a family gathering. That means the couch potato has left its nest, and that could be an ugly thing.

So once you step over the door threshold and step into a midnight sale or a holiday deep discount two for one thingy, remember shopping basket road rage is a definite thing! And if you can get a jolly at all~  remember there’s actually  people out with their morning jammies and slippers on! This is great for a laugh or ten, or perhaps an istagram post or two. Have fun shopping and hanging out, but mostly remember the looks on their faces knowing you tirelessly shopped, picked out and tailored a gift for them!!

Haha to be continued….

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a Conversationaltone.

Identity

My thoughts on identity.

Identity, it’s a source of self. Identity defined is simply being who or what a person or a thing is.

But wait, it is also a close similarity or affinity to something. So much lately has been in the news about

one’s self and our human attachment to an identity. I’m guessing people have been thinking way

outside the box!

Sense of self is important to us; it is where we find our personal security. It is for our sense of comfort.

Lately though, the extreme examples of finding one’s identity have been exhibited for all to see. Human

beings are creatures that crave identities because I think that people gravitate toward each other in

seeking out themselves. This is why we have clubs, support groups, and otherwise genres of t.v.

programming.

For example, taking reality t.v. into account and the types of people who watch them are perhaps

as “on the edge” as those on the shows and somehow the viewer is striving to see themselves.  The

subject matter of changing genders or assigning a gender to ourselves is an interesting one. While there

are people out there somewhere whom are choosing to be this or that, there still are as many more

born to be someone or something else. These people time and again, say they knew for themselves

they were not the appropriate gender, or knew that somehow they were not comfortable in the role

they had been living Or that they sought out love from an undisclosed gender for

example.  Or still yet, that they find themselves somehow being a “misfit” of sorts.

Identity is also something that fits you like a personal glove:  be it your job, or your life course

and sometimes, as we very recently have witnessed the racial identity of a person. One can identify with

the life that one is living. With job loss there is an identity loss, perhaps due to circumstances we squash

all that we want to be for what we have to be. Now, these subject matters bring me to understanding

and the compassion part of it to this essay. I just say let live because although I may not like a

particular thing that is happening  to someone else, I cannot control it nor can I possibly imagine what

that person is feeling  or the freedom they get once expressing themselves~ I just can’t “identify” with

it!!

Identity is where we call ourselves comfortably home and the loss of it, or the real discovery of it may be

exactly what one needs to think way out of the box on this one~

 

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a Conversationaltone!

Humanity is Disgusting!

Seriously, I sat down to write a post and nothing was on my mind other than the single act of a lone human being to coming to the aid of another. When a person puts themselves in harm’s way to save a life, we deem these heroic, right? Take for instance, firefighters and policeman, we all know at a moments notice these men and women will go to far lengths to save complete strangers. They completely disregard their own lives and safety. And if you are reading this and have had your life saved or that of a loved one rescued you personally know that you are one of the lucky ones.

On Sunday morning at 5:40 AM, on 144 th st & 88th Rd. in Jamaica, Queens New York, a man did just that; he stuck his neck out in not only an act of kindness, but an act of selfless love for his fellow-man. He saw a woman being mugged by another man. This man could not stand to see another inflict pain upon this lone woman walking and  he took action!

Yes, this person was named Hugo Alfred Tale-Yax, he was 32 years old and he is my hero! Why? This man acted upon his instincts and little did he know that he would interject himself into what was about to become his last endeavour of his life. Mr. Tale-Yax, native of Guatemala was out of work. He in fact, was named as a homeless man, but he kept busy by doing odd jobs. He was trying to be an active member of society. Did I mention he was my hero? Notice how I throw that title around? A true hero comes to the aid of another without thinking of the consequences to his person. Mr. Tale-Yax could be anyone, but he isn’t.

Once Mr.Tale-Yax went to aid the woman in peril, he was subsequently stabbed several times in the chest by the woman’s attacker. While this ensued the woman ran away in the other direction. The knife-wielding attacker ran away too, and that left my hero, slowly hitting the ground as he too tried in vain to get away. Soon Mr. Hugo Alfred Tale-Yax perished. But he did not die a lonely death; for at least twenty-five pedestrians passed by his motionless body and it is reported that only 1-2 people actually called 911!  Disgusting and I shake my head. Many touched him and at least one took a picture of him. Perhaps they all thought him a hapless drunk, and did not know what to do; I’ll give that much. But my checks and balances are always to ask myself immediately would I want to be treated that way? If I saw a dying man I would try to help; it’s just me. I can’t be alone in this? Am I?

What if any would you have done? Can we teach and preach love to our fellow-man in church,schools, and tv? Have we become a nation where we can give to hurricane and earthquake victims but not to the lowly hero in town?  Why did this man of great substance die in vain? Why did he have to die at all? Was his number up? Most likely his fate is sealed in what we learn from his selfless act of love for his fellow-man. We need to continue to keep his story in the forefront of everyone’s mind. This is for world-wide consumption, not just for those in New York!  We need to change this people. We need to take time to care for people we do not know. This country needs to change the mind-set of “I want to get mine”! When ever you do something or think of something, please think of the homeless man with the funny name, Hugo Alfred Tale-Yax and pay homage to his selfless act of humanity. He is different from many~he extended a hand to his fellow-man and in turn lost his life.

For all those that strolled by, took pictures, and even laughed as blood pooled on the sidewalk, shame on you. You know who you are and I hope you are as sick to your stomach as I am! You shamed your city, your country and now the world!  For whom ever finally got the fire department there, thank you, it was too late but you had a small feeling in your heart that drove you to try to change that situation.

For me and in my house, I will continue to tell the story of Mr. Hugo Alfred Tale-Yax and his life changing event. I hope to raise children and surround myself with people who love and care and just give a damn!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone!

Mary Caliendo

I’m Honked Off How ‘Bout You?

Well if you have been following the news and the papers; I am sure you have heard that many school districts across this country are struggling with finances and unbelievable debt. But today, more than in recent, I have come to an impasse where I am about to blow a gasket! I am honked off and you should be too.

Why? First and foremost, our country built a tradition of passing on knowledge to the next generation. Then we provide public school education to all and we make this a law. If you don’t like the education system, then you get out and home school, right?

But it isn’t about liking or not liking the school system for me; for me it is about the true and utter disrespect being shown to that of every man, woman, and child in my state! Today upwards to 700-750 teachers, substitutes,coaches,library sciences, arts, choir, and band as well as janitorial staff were cut from the second largest school district in my state! We haven’t received the federal funding that was deserved this school and in the last two weeks several other very large school districts did the same, and they also had not received that federal funding. Without the federal funding the pink slips came.

One of the hardest things I have seen in a while is children going to speak into a microphone pleading to keep their teachers, or high school kids facing the loss of scholarship because there will be no music,no choir and no varsity sport.

When I look closely at my tax bill, I see that not only do I pay an absorbent amount of money for my property, I pay even more for my school district. The district that I have chosen to bring my children into. And then I stay because I think that in the long-term my children will benefit from a great school district. But my teachers cannot possibly teach and organize a class with 37 children, or 35 children, or even 30 children!  The children cannot get enough one-on-one attention to help them succeed. There are children that will need the extra help, and those children will fall through the cracks without attention.

There will be a huge amount of failure. And what I think will be worse is that within this model of “do what you can with the least amount of resources” cannot possibly result in anything good.  We are often challenged in the world arena as to why our children are not smarter than other world children is because we forgot to put them first. In most businesses, the business put its self first by paying itself and it is high time that we think about our education system that way too!

Put our kids first, and we pay ourselves by creating a better us. We cannot compete because the dollars are not there! How dare my state even tell us parents that! How dare my country for not thinking of our children first! After all I pay and I pay and I pay and so do you! I am not sure what can be done to help this situation but something needs to be done and done quickly. We created a lottery and lottery money has been designated to go to education systems across the country. You must have seen the sizes of these lottery pots, so I ask my state not only where did all that money go from my taxes, but what about all that lottery money? Where is it at?

Where is it all at?  Have you so badly mismanaged it? Have you squandered it? Then if not where can the itemization be seen? Pray tell?

I’m honked off and you should be too! Put our kids first and those educated kids will graduate and with any luck they will be smarter than the average politician running the country now!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone. Mary Caliendo

Whitney Houston Resurrection!

Everytime I think that I have seen the last of the best of the feel good stories-here comes Oprah again! I hope you all caught the recent two-day interview of Whitney Houston on the Oprah show.

This interview was not only dramatic, it was sad and then finally glorious.  Now Whitney has not survived a fatal illness, or overcame a tragic accident that has left her maimed, no Whitney is surviving her life!  Now that’s big right? Well, yes it is when you are Whitney Houston and Bobbie Brown.   At one time Whitney was on top of the world with anything and everything she could want. Is part of Whitney and Bobbie Brown’s problem having too much too fast? Most likely that was a contributing factor in all of this!

Ms Houston went deep into her soul and revealed a lot of what took place within the marriage of the two. The excesses, the loves, and finally the realization that all of it was definitely not working! Whitney’s account shows what the taking and abusing the drugs and alcohol that the two were engaged in ravaged not only their marriages, their careers, and finally their lives. Ms Houston let us in on some awful insights of the garbage that was taking place in their home. Her conversation with Oprah was stunning. 

I’m glad to hear when a star or a singer wants to be clean, sober, and happy just like the rest of us. I hope that after the dramatization of Whitney’s life via the “Oprah Effect” is still going strong many years to come from now. I am hoping that she was not only sincere, but serious because Oprah put herself out there as Whitney’s friend. It was a wonderful thing that after finding out how terrible Whitney’s drug use was and the fact that she was so low- that simply a desire to raise her child and show her child that she could have much to be proud of in her mother.  Whitney claimed that Bobbie Brown had no knowledge of that interview and most likely she’d be hearing something as Bobbie Brown did not look so great!  In fact, he looked just like a typical abuser! The very fact that he spat into the face of Whitney is simply deplorable!  And it is something that is the lowest  thing that one can do to another. Sad. I hope that it was his drug/alcohol abuse that caused that!

Let’s hope the two of them will get on with their lives and Whitney will continue in the upward spiral back to the top of reining diva!!  It would be great to turn on the radio or see a movie and hear Whitney again!  She has given us some of the greats! Her new stuff is a different Whitney. She is older and wiser, and she exudes more throaty soul as she sings! Let her voice crack a bit, after all she’ll show character and the wrinkles of the past! To me, her short singing appearance on Oprah was great! She was vibrant, but appeared nervous for the first few seconds and then Whitney stepped back into the shoes she once wore! Whitney resurrected!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationalTone.

Mary Caliendo

Kanye West -Mr. Jacka$$

Well I have waited some days now to see if the Kanye West steam roller engine would exhaust itself and simply die down, but the locomotive has only picked up speed and is blowing out more steam than ever!

So I guess I would be remiss if I too did not vent my all too familiar writer feelings out in a small snippet of finely crafted paragraphs, and letting my readers chime in on their thoughts about my thoughts!  So I’ll just start here, and borrow a line from the leader of our free world- “Kayne is a Jackass”!  True enough I think that at this point Kayne knows for real, that Kayne is a true Jackass too!

Thank you Mr. President Obama for giving me yet another reason to love you again!  You are real and we all identify!

I’m just wondering what a sloppy, drunken rapper did to get past say security, back stage people and who ever else is backstage at an awards show, to actually get on to stage, and grab the microphone from any recipient! It was released widely that CNN got a hold of  words used by Kayne West himself that went, I had a bit too much sippy, sippy and got a little tipsy, tipsy—whoa!  Sounds like a new song?  Or was it already a song??  Anyway, a stroke of luck brought the scheduled performer to the Jay Leno stage, where Leno asked a couple of great questions -such as -what would your mother have thought of this behavior?  Any mother would not be proud of that display period!  I’m glad Kayne West felt sorry, ashamed, and embarrassed -he should have! It was unclassy, child-like behavior that little children are put into corners for.  Thank you Beyonce’ you are a class act in my opinion!  In my eyes there is not one thing you can do wrong, ya know that Jay-Z thing!   OH girl, yes I did!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone!

Mary Caliendo

Drew Peterson Wants New Venue

Well no news was good news…..but alas Peterson’s lawyer Joel Brodsky filed a motion to seek a venue change. Brodsky stated that he feels his client cannot get a fair trial in Will County, IL.

In Brodsky’s motion it stated media coverage was so widespread, and that it was extreme and inflammatory thus causing the tainting of prospective jurors to be impartial!

As if…Mr. Brodsky, I don’t know if you have heard but CNN carried coverage of the Drew Peterson arrest, as well as exhumation of Ms Kathleen Savio’s body! The only way that Brodsky and Peterson could get a jury that has never seen or heard of the character Drew Peterson or that of his case, they would have to have to seek a jury from another planet!

The change of venue was expected. And this is often a strategy used in many high-profile cases, or cases where the suspect is an outlandish character who cannot stay out of the media spotlight, and whom goads the media to continue to put him on the air! Peterson and Brodsky brought even more notoriety to their own case, and I think it would be a laughable situation if the judge says no on his later August 14, 2009 court date!

Good luck Brodsky/Peterson camp Drew Peterson will fairly get what he has coming to him!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationalTone.

Mary Caliendo

Drew Peterson’s Lawyer Makes Accusations!

Well it’s been extremely quiet on the “Drew Peterson Crazy Train” of late!  The judge put a sock in Drew Peterson’s mouth, and that of his lawyer Joel Brodsky at the last court date. Thank goodness! No news means good news to us, but  Joel Brodsky and the rest of the Drew Peterson camp must have been ancy because after this past Tuesday’s court date, Brodsky had something to say.

It has been reported in several of the local news agencies that the Peterson Team came out and accused Christina Raines of trying to date another police officer. Christina Raines is being represented by famous lawyer Gloria Alred, and she has issued a written statement from her office. Her statement that was released said ” Chrissie has not had dinner with or gone to the movies with any police officer other than Drew Peterson, and she has no interest in doing so.” She continued in her statement to say “She does not feel she was “hit-on” by any police officer, We do not think there is a bias for filing a complaint against any officer and we have no plans to file such a complaint.”

Brodsky announced that he intended to file a motion regarding this. According to Brodsky some unknown detective asked Christina Raines on a date during the investigation of Peterson for murder of third wife Kathleen Savio and disappearance of the fourth wife, Stacy Peterson.

The State’s Attorney’s office spokesperson has refuted what Joel Brodsky has aleged. The office further stated that Brodsky accusation is “preposterous and disingenuous”.  Meanwhile, after hearing such nonsense, Ernie Raines, who is Christina Raines’ father has stated that Joel Brodsky is a scumbag. He also let loose a couple expletives as he claimed with his threat that he is going to kick the bleep out of him!

It is a free country and I guess if Christina Raines wants to date another police officer, I guess she can. It would be easier if it wasn’t one that was investigating her ex-boyfriend-ex-fiance’-! It appears that everyone, and anyone according to Brodsky/Peterson is a liar, cheat, slut, low-life, drug abuser, mentalcase, and criminal!

Too bad for them, they surrounded themselves with people like that! Drew Peterson is shining!  He is a superstar among the scum!!

I have but one thing to say- WAKE-UP!  We all know that Peterson is all of those mentioned above!  And while he did travel in circles of the under-belly, and he shines in no ones eyes but his own. This writer is once again glad to say that I am so glad he is safely tucked away in his small cell and is as quiet as a church mouse!

No news is good news to me!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationalTone.

Mary Caliendo

Was Michael Murdered?

All the fervor has passed, what with the elaborate memorial service, which turned slightly to the way of circus atmosphere, rumors about Michael Jackson’s life has come out.

No one knows what exactly to believe. It would not be hard to believe that people who surrounded Michael Jackson were shady at best!  All celebrities, movie stars, and singers have had some sort of brush with those people/fans who are just simply star-struck, and those with deeper problems; stalking is one that comes to mind. Among the many stars that have had these “brushes” with those types of people have had for the most part, good results. With many celebs. being able to get the stalkers time in prisons and orders of protection.

But what about those fans who inject their lives with the celebrity? Is it unbelievable that LaToya Jackson has come out to say the she thinks her brother was not only a victim of murder, he is the victim of thievery as well. She is quoted as saying that her brother is a victim of a conspiracy of several people. Michael is described by many as being meek, gentle, and kind. Some believing that he was even a bit naive. La Toya goes on to say that she believed Michael was surrounded by people who did not have his best interests at heart.

We most likely will see the results of the toxicology reports will show that Michael’s body had drugs and chemicals in it and that will have lead to his death. La Toya, as well as  many others do have a belief in the theory that shady people surrounded him. 

La Toya went on to say that she feels all of the things will come out  in the end. For Michael and for his three children, and his extended family, I sure hope that those who were getting him the drugs will be charged with murder, attempted murder or even manslaughter or involuntary manslaughter. I feel this way because I would not want someone close to me to be given things/drugs that were not customary or “normal” in nature, not to mention the aiding that of an already addicted person; this is already a crime!

So sorry that the “nurse friend” of Michael who told him that this is dangerous (diprovan), did not report the doctor who was illegally giving this to him!  Gosh, with friends like that who needs enemies?

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationalTone.

Mary Caliendo

Laura Ling Broke Laws

About one month ago Laura Ling and friend and colleague Euna Lee were imprisoned as a result of a sentence given in the courtrooms of North Korea.  Though a public outcry, as well as many a vigil were given for the two; and messages went all the way to President Barack Obama, the pair were sentenced to twelve years each of hard labor in North Korea!

Laura Ling is the sister of Lisa Ling renown reporter for TV. Laura Ling and Euna Lee were working for a San Francisco TV program called Current TV. They were doing a “piece” on trafficking of humans.  This area has been a hotbed on this particular subject for some time now.

Well apparently on this past Thursday, Laura Ling was able to speak with her sister Lisa Ling by telephone for about twenty minutes. In this conversation Laura Ling told her sister that she and her colleague Euna Lee did break laws of the country of North Korea.

In order for the two to be released from the labor camp now is to receive a full government pardon. Our country is still trying diplomatically to ask for the release of the two American citizens.

The country of North Korea has said the two reporters entered the country illegally and then proceeded to commit “hostile acts”. Since their capture in March they have been residing in a labor camp, and it appears now that this may have “broken the spirit” of the two young girls. Perhaps the country of North Korea can get the girls to admit to something “on air”, then the country would look as if their actions were warranted. Therefore, they country and its leaders would not look like human civil rights abusers!  We all know this country’s track record, and furthermore, we know that this country has many an axe to grind with the United States of America.

Let’s hope that this conversation that was had between Laura Ling and Lisa Ling will prompt the leaders of North Korea to consider that governmental pardon and release the reporters back into the custody of the United States. As look at the two reporters we can see that it is highly unlikely that these two women ever committed any “hostile acts” at all.

Let us continue to hope for the freedom of Laura Ling, and Euna Lee.

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationalTone.

Mary Caliendo