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Miley Cyrus Pulling A Brittany?

Say it ain’t so, Hanna Montana is growing up! She turned in to Miley Cyrus~ wow~ that’s unheard of isn’t it? And now the controversy rages on; some say anyway. To my daughter who is slightly younger than the real Miley she is glad that Miley has shed, as she put it, that baby image for who she really is. This girl is an obvious talent and she is a performer who has staying power. She has a great voice and can actually act, even if the lines written for her in some of the things she has been in have been lame! I think we will see Miley for many years to come.

Some early childhood stars were either told they could not change,or don’t change because of fears they would never work again, and well we have seen where all of that has gotten some kids (look at the cast of say Different Strokes, or say even The Brady Bunch) these kids did not morph into the next generation of things to come. While things were way different in different eras, and today there is a  lot more that a child star can do~it is ultimately up to them to further their career.

I am a mother who believes in children’s programming and puts the brakes on the the TV, Dvd’s, the computer,facebook, the internet….should I go on and when it is time to put on the brakes I do! Period. No giving in! When things crossed the line I simply said no. Hard feelings were had and I even got the occasional “I hate you” mutterings, but in the end all of my kids lived on, and they got the doses of hard realities when they should have. I am a firm believer in too much is too much and less is most likely better. My kids saw wholesome programming, but never went to an actual “rock concert” until High School. The ‘tween scene is way too much for my taste! I think that it is utterly ridiculous for a twelve-year-old to go to say Eminem or Brittany. I even think that twelve year olds need not get Bieber fever either. Listen we had Donny Osmond! We were all in love, his pictures were on every girls’ walls and when he sang we all thought truly he was singing directly at us! But we did not “drag” our parents out to a screaming stampede~my mother would have said no and I am certain that once the tears were over I would have gone on.

I think too much is being marketed to the ‘tweens group all together, it is in this writers opinion that Miley Cyrus has her place and that parents have theirs. I think that it is high time that if parents don’t want Miley Cyrus to become a woman and sing and perform like one, okay. That group have their right to disagree with me. I think if they are the parent of a ‘tween and they do not like a performers’ image, clothes or sound-mom, dad time to say NO! Parents the ball is in your court it is up to you to play your game well!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo

Humanity is Disgusting!

Seriously, I sat down to write a post and nothing was on my mind other than the single act of a lone human being to coming to the aid of another. When a person puts themselves in harm’s way to save a life, we deem these heroic, right? Take for instance, firefighters and policeman, we all know at a moments notice these men and women will go to far lengths to save complete strangers. They completely disregard their own lives and safety. And if you are reading this and have had your life saved or that of a loved one rescued you personally know that you are one of the lucky ones.

On Sunday morning at 5:40 AM, on 144 th st & 88th Rd. in Jamaica, Queens New York, a man did just that; he stuck his neck out in not only an act of kindness, but an act of selfless love for his fellow-man. He saw a woman being mugged by another man. This man could not stand to see another inflict pain upon this lone woman walking and  he took action!

Yes, this person was named Hugo Alfred Tale-Yax, he was 32 years old and he is my hero! Why? This man acted upon his instincts and little did he know that he would interject himself into what was about to become his last endeavour of his life. Mr. Tale-Yax, native of Guatemala was out of work. He in fact, was named as a homeless man, but he kept busy by doing odd jobs. He was trying to be an active member of society. Did I mention he was my hero? Notice how I throw that title around? A true hero comes to the aid of another without thinking of the consequences to his person. Mr. Tale-Yax could be anyone, but he isn’t.

Once Mr.Tale-Yax went to aid the woman in peril, he was subsequently stabbed several times in the chest by the woman’s attacker. While this ensued the woman ran away in the other direction. The knife-wielding attacker ran away too, and that left my hero, slowly hitting the ground as he too tried in vain to get away. Soon Mr. Hugo Alfred Tale-Yax perished. But he did not die a lonely death; for at least twenty-five pedestrians passed by his motionless body and it is reported that only 1-2 people actually called 911!  Disgusting and I shake my head. Many touched him and at least one took a picture of him. Perhaps they all thought him a hapless drunk, and did not know what to do; I’ll give that much. But my checks and balances are always to ask myself immediately would I want to be treated that way? If I saw a dying man I would try to help; it’s just me. I can’t be alone in this? Am I?

What if any would you have done? Can we teach and preach love to our fellow-man in church,schools, and tv? Have we become a nation where we can give to hurricane and earthquake victims but not to the lowly hero in town?  Why did this man of great substance die in vain? Why did he have to die at all? Was his number up? Most likely his fate is sealed in what we learn from his selfless act of love for his fellow-man. We need to continue to keep his story in the forefront of everyone’s mind. This is for world-wide consumption, not just for those in New York!  We need to change this people. We need to take time to care for people we do not know. This country needs to change the mind-set of “I want to get mine”! When ever you do something or think of something, please think of the homeless man with the funny name, Hugo Alfred Tale-Yax and pay homage to his selfless act of humanity. He is different from many~he extended a hand to his fellow-man and in turn lost his life.

For all those that strolled by, took pictures, and even laughed as blood pooled on the sidewalk, shame on you. You know who you are and I hope you are as sick to your stomach as I am! You shamed your city, your country and now the world!  For whom ever finally got the fire department there, thank you, it was too late but you had a small feeling in your heart that drove you to try to change that situation.

For me and in my house, I will continue to tell the story of Mr. Hugo Alfred Tale-Yax and his life changing event. I hope to raise children and surround myself with people who love and care and just give a damn!

Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone!

Mary Caliendo

Remembering September 11th!

No matter what you do today, remember 9/11. Why? To keep this date on our minds and in our hearts. We can see a million ceremonies on TV today, but it will not touch you more than your personal family erecting a large American Flag in front of your house, or taking part in a small observance of silence, or perhaps bringing a plate of cookies,cupcakes, or brownies to your local firehouse.

Teaching our next generation about the mindset of hate and changing that. Teaching children that things like this do exist in other nations, but deflecting it and having the children experience honor and respect for others is paramount. And finally let the world know that we care for the next guy, that this country can/and has pulled together as a unit to encourage time for reflection and honor.

So like the old song says “Teach your children well”; show them the importance of remembering and end that cycle of hate and hopefully our vigilance will cause change to happen-even if it has to go far into the mountain caves of Afghanistan or just the streets of hometown USA!

Remembering September 11th! Just my thoughts, just my opinions, and always in a conversationaltone.

Mary Caliendo